Reasons NOT to pledge a sorority?

[sigmagirl10]

Originally Posted by BadCat25

You will have to accept that a certain amount of conformity is involved. You will be expected to dress and act like an SEC sorority girl. No wearing a nose ring or dying your hair purple or acting like a slut.

I think these are pretty extreme examples, but BadCat25 is onto something there. Joining a sorority involves a certain level of conformity. No, we are not going to make you give up the person you are and be exactly like us--that is a patently false stereotype. But if you have a problem with having rules and regulations control certain aspects of your life (like when and how you can speak in a chapter meeting, what is appropriate behavior while at a fraternity mixer, and how you must dress for the sister side of recruitment, for example) is a problem for you, then sorority life is probably not for you. If the idea of having someone tell you that you can't wear that color of nail polish for philanthropy round and that your dress is too short for pref and dancing on the pole at the party last night made the chapter look bad...well, that's something to think about, at a bare minimum.

My chapter had a sister choose to disaffiliate because she felt that there was too much structure (i.e. being given super-reasonable, room-for-self-expression dress guidelines for recruitment, being expected to attend a meeting at the same time every Monday, and being reminded that her actions reflected back on the chapter).

Just some food for thought.

[ADPi95]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl10

I think these are pretty extreme examples, but BadCat25 is onto something there. Joining a sorority involves a certain level of conformity. No, we are not going to make you give up the person you are and be exactly like us--that is a patently false stereotype. But if you have a problem with having rules and regulations control certain aspects of your life (like when and how you can speak in a chapter meeting, what is appropriate behavior while at a fraternity mixer, and how you must dress for the sister side of recruitment, for example) is a problem for you, then sorority life is probably not for you. If the idea of having someone tell you that you can't wear that color of nail polish for philanthropy round and that your dress is too short for pref and dancing on the pole at the party last night made the chapter look bad...well, that's something to think about, at a bare minimum.

My chapter had a sister choose to disaffiliate because she felt that there was too much structure (i.e. being given super-reasonable, room-for-self-expression dress guidelines for recruitment, being expected to attend a meeting at the same time every Monday, and being reminded that her actions reflected back on the chapter).

Just some food for thought.

I'd be curious to see how this individual handled a job post-college. Dress codes, expected to be on time, actions reflect on the company/org...

[HQWest]

Gee-ess
- if I had 5 recs each for 1400 women I wouldnt have any place to put them? Someone still has to read them?

Asking 2 each so you have a back up is probably fine - you might ask for more if there is one special group, and you know lots of members