Could You Wait?

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Originally posted by neicy81 But ask yourself why are YOU having sex.No need to throw in a standard definition of sex.When you are feeling hot and bothered, you definitely aren't thinking "I really want this act of becoming one with another". "I want to become one with her".When you are in the act are you thinking "I am becoming one with her"?I don't think so.

First off, if you are addressing me personally, then you are WAY off base. I have not had sex for some years now. I choose not to engage in meaningless sex with a man, just b/c I'm "feeling hot and bothered". Secondly, as I stated earlier, please don't trivialize other people's views on sex. When I make love to a man, it's not only b/c I'm all hot and bothered...it's a physical expression of our love for one another...an expression of which I have only shared so far w/ one person and that I don't take lightly...

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
I agree with Swamp Thang. If a woman wants no sex, then she should look for a man who wants the same thing, rather than get involved in a relationship that will ultimately make one or both parties unhapppy and/or resentful.

A man who is not celibate might SAY that he'll wait, but if that is NOT something he's looking for then you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak.

No offense gentlemen, but when it comes to sex, I just don't think most men in my age group are particularly responsible, and as such the idea of them waiting for a woman is questionable.

EXACTLY!!!! Finally, a fellow woman that I agree with and I can identify w/ (we're in the same age group)...You said ewxactly what i've been trying to say...

I say look for what you want in a man...If he doesn't have a quality that you desire, then don't waste your time trying to change him. Would you want a man trying to change you, telling you to have sex? I'm prety sure you wouldn't! That's why I don't even waste my time on men that want frivolous, meaningless sex. We'd have to have an understanding/agreement established at the BEGINNING of our relationship--that we won't have sex until both of us are ready--no matter how long it takes up until the point of when/if we get married...Neither partner would attempt to pressure the other into sex...And if he couldn't deal with that--if we are not in agreement, then why waste my time?! I'm young, and I'm sure God has the right man out there for me.