Dealing with a second choice

[ctgirl]

I have been lurking on gc a while, and your post prompted me to join. I don't know why, but I have a feeling what school you attend. Obviously, I can't know for sure.

Nonetheless, if you feel like you ended up where you belong, don't worry about perceptions. If you like your pledge class and like the girls in your house, you are in the right place. Your sisters if you ended up in the right place will be your lifelong friends...and after college, you probably won't give 2 s@!ts about the people who you think viewed your sorority as "boring".

[kateee]

i really fit in with these girls. i think i just wanted to be popular so badly and was forgetting who i really am. i am dorky, but i am sweet, and kind, and caring, and a shoulder to cry on, and every single girl in my sorority is great, and will be there for me. and i am being sooo stupid and taking it for granted. they were my first choice when i went to the first night of parties and then XYZ sorority came in and 'changed' my mind but when i think about it i don't know if i liked the girls in the other sorority, or if i liked the idea of being well liked. i keep flip flopping in my mind. i do feel very comfortable with the girls in my sorority though. i can be myself, and thats what matters. i had friends in the sorority before recruitment so that makes me feel guilty for almost choosing the other organization. i hope they never find out they were second choice. because they are honestly the best people i have met in my entire life. and you're right, i shouldn't care about their reputation.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by kateee

i really fit in with these girls. i think i just wanted to be popular so badly and was forgetting who i really am. i am dorky, but i am sweet, and kind, and caring, and a shoulder to cry on, and every single girl in my sorority is great, and will be there for me. and i am being sooo stupid and taking it for granted. they were my first choice when i went to the first night of parties and then XYZ sorority came in and 'changed' my mind but when i think about it i don't know if i liked the girls in the other sorority, or if i liked the idea of being well liked. i keep flip flopping in my mind. i do feel very comfortable with the girls in my sorority though. i can be myself, and thats what matters. i had friends in the sorority before recruitment so that makes me feel guilty for almost choosing the other organization. i hope they never find out they were second choice. because they are honestly the best people i have met in my entire life. and you're right, i shouldn't care about their reputation.

Wow, this is a great post, and I'm so glad you are showing this much maturity.