Preference:
Janet sent me a text saying that she had picked up her preference invitations and had been invited to :
The Temptations
Diana Ross
She was bummed out that Aretha Franklin had dropped her, but was excited that she still had The Temptations. She bought a new dress for Preference and talked to her mom about financing sorority membership. After Preference, she sent me texts again.
The Temptations- She was paired with someone she hadn’t met before. They didn’t click as well as she had with some of the other women she had met. She and I talked about how you won’t click with all of the members of any chapter but that she had gotten along well with some of the other women and those would probably be the women she would hang out with the most. She still really likes this chapter.
Diana Ross- She has gone to all of their events and just hasn’t had easy conversations with any of the women she has met so she is very wary about joining this chapter.
She decided to ISP The Temptations. I reminded her of the risks of that and she was sure that it was the right thing to do. She had decided that it was The Temptations or she wouldn’t be Greek and that was ok. I asked her what time she was supposed to hear from her counselor if she didn’t get a bid. She said “If I don’t, I’m going to cry.” and then she said they didn’t say anything about that. I told her that if she felt that strongly, maybe she should put Diana Ross down too. She was insistent that she would only cry because The Temptations didn’t give her a bid, not because she wouldn’t be Greek.
She thought that she was supposed to get her bid at 5 pm on Sunday, but she was really supposed to pick it up between 11 am and 1 pm and then show up for bid day activities at 5. She found this out Saturday and was at home for the weekend, thinking she wouldn’t have to be back to school until close to 5 pm Sunday. She was going to text her recruitment counselor and see if it was possible to pick the bid up a little later in the day, if she got one.
I am on pins and needles because she took this risk. I think she could find a niche in any chapter, but she really doesn’t think so. I guess it is better to ISP than to get matched to a chapter and not show up for Bid Day because I think that is really hard on a chapter. I think if she had felt a connection with any of the women she met at Diana Ross, she might have felt differently. I really hope she gets a bid. I’m really afraid that she won’t
I am also really regretting that I didn’t send a rec. I really didn’t know she was interested in recruitment until it was too late.
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