What makes a PNM "pop"?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I feel like PNM's popped when we talked about something other than "what's your major, what dorm are you living in, etc." I always tried to ask more interesting questions, but sometime they go nowhere:

"What did you do over the summer?"
"oh, I worked a lot"

meh

vs.

"What did you do this summer?"
"Oh, I mostly worked, but I did get a chance to go to Lollapalooza".

The second is going to lead to a WAY more interesting conversation.

[33girl]

Sometimes I think that some PNMs are TOO afraid of saying the wrong thing. Take DBB's PNM in the post above. Some girls would be like "oh, what if she hates Lolla-type music...or thinks music festivals are for dirty hippies...OMG, she'll be sure to cut me." So they stick with a boring answer and get rated low because they're so unmemorable.

Chapters/women who know how to rush, if they get hooked up with a PNM that is not their style...will find a sister who IS. "Oh, my gosh, Susan went to Lollapalooza too! Greg Dulli looked right at her and she almost passed out! I have to introduce you two!"

If someone (a sister or a fellow PNM) leads the conversation into potentially dicey territory, take it out. For example, if someone is talking about President Obama, bring it around to how freaking adorable their dog is and your family also is debating which kind of dog to get.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If someone (a sister or a fellow PNM) leads the conversation into potentially dicey territory, take it out. For example, if someone is talking about President Obama, bring it around to how freaking adorable their dog is and your family also is debating which kind of dog to get.

That's actually pretty brilliant, 33! Have you ever considered a career change to public relations???

[33girl]

I deal with crazy Squill peeps all the time. That's PR enough.

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If someone (a sister or a fellow PNM) leads the conversation into potentially dicey territory, take it out. For example, if someone is talking about President Obama, bring it around to how freaking adorable their dog is and your family also is debating which kind of dog to get.

I know KR commented on this, but I have to chime in on how fantastic this is. There's ALWAYS a way to turn a conversation around.