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Originally Posted by Bamajama
My daughter went through rush at Alabama and loved every minute. She pledged what I guess is considered an old row sorority. One that is very strong in the south and we thought was strong at Alabama. She has met some nice girls and is liking it but there are some really out of control girls and she doesn't enjoy going to parties or anywhere these girls are. They are obnoxious and embarrassing. I feel so bad because she feels like she made a mistake in her choice. I'm a little upset that the sorority allowed these young ladies in to begin with. I know it's college but I think the girls should be held to a higher standard. When they have girls obnoxiously drunk, cursing, rude to others,sleeping around....it's unacceptable. I wasn't in a sorority but was under the impression that the sororities were very picky about the kinds of girls they let in.
I'm wondering if possibly these girls made it in because of the maximizing your options? From what I understand if a girl listed all her pref parties on her last day they were guaranteed a bid. Were sororities forced to take girls that were on the bottom of their list? Personally I don't even know why they had these girls at pref. I've heard that some of the sororities lost their top choice to other sororities and had to do snap bids. I'm not sure I understand what a snap bid is but it doesn't sound good.
Are the sororities required to take a certain number of girls? It seems like the majority of the girls are great but theres a couple dozen girls that dont seem to fit in or want to fit in. Its almost as if they had to take these girls just to fill some qouta. These girls are giving the rest of the sorority a bad reputation. I wish rush was later so that the girls could get to know the sororities better and the sororities could get to know the girls. Do the sororities ever kick girls out for bad behavior at parties and on campus?
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You know, sometimes you just don't want to know the answers. Even if we knew the answers to some of your questions, we couldn't tell you, and even if we could, you probably wouldn't like the answer.
Just sit back and let your daughter experience all the ups and downs she's facing. Considering the size of the groups at Bama, it's very likely that your daughter will find the group of sisters she identifies with most, and the sisters she's complaining about now won't be such an issue.
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