FSU Recruitment 2012

debann127 · #1 08-25-2012, 10:16 AM

Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

AXOrushadvisor · #2 08-25-2012, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by debann127

Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

I think the answer to your question is yes and no. I think some women have a very easy time expressing their desire to have a woman join their sisterhood, however, that active is only one vote in the Chapter. So they could flat out tell her what she wants to hear but that might not be the reality of situation.

Wallace · #3 08-25-2012, 10:27 AM

If you attend a chapter's preference party you are on that chapter's bid list, it's a question of where on the bid list. From what I understand, legacies are suppose to be listed first on bid lists.

FSU's Rho Gammas gives the PNM's their preference invitations privately and individually. You may not hear from your daughter right away. It took awhile for my daughter to text me last year.

Good luck to her!

pinapple · #4 08-25-2012, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by debann127

Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

I would do everything in your power to encourage her to not drop. I know it is hard. People are judging your child. How can it not be emotional? But you have to understand at this point everyone that is going back is liked. It is now a numbers game. Just like a favorite emerged yesterday, who is to say another favorite can't shine today? SHE CANNON'T TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME. Three weeks from now when she meets some awesome girls from "unliked" sorority ABC she might end up desiring to be part of a sisterhood she was already welcomed in. She has to try her darnedest to seperate the "top house" tent talk from her goal, which (and this in my opinion based on the fact that she is rushing as I type) is to join an amazing sisterhood.

She will only have this one chance for the next year. Whether she drops now, or see it through bid day, that does not change. So where is the harm in her attending prefs at even her bottom choices if that means an opportunity to have a connection made that has not been made yet. If she doesn't go, the possibility is zero. In my opinion, dropping after this round, in any recruitment (SEC, Big 10 or whatever) is the biggest mistake PNMs make. Dropping after round 1 because sorority life is not for you...I get. She has had about 65 minutes with these girls. She has heard years of rumors and "tent talk". She needs to seperate her ears from her heart and give any of the wonderful women that are welcoming her to their home a shot. She should establish a relationship durning a new member period before considering dismissing a group on what now is only speculation

PKTKKG · #5 08-25-2012, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by pinapple

I would do everything in your power to encourage her to not drop. I know it is hard. People are judging your child. How can it not be emotional? But you have to understand at this point everyone that is going back is liked. It is now a numbers game. Just like a favorite emerged yesterday, who is to say another favorite can't shine today? SHE CANNON'T TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME. Three weeks from now when she meets some awesome girls from "unliked" sorority ABC she might end up desiring to be part of a sisterhood she was already welcomed in. She has to try her darnedest to seperate the "top house" tent talk from her goal, which (and this in my opinion based on the fact that she is rushing as I type) is to join an amazing sisterhood.

She will only have this one chance for the next year. Whether she drops now, or see it through bid day, that does not change. So where is the harm in her attending prefs at even her bottom choices if that means an opportunity to have a connection made that has not been made yet. If she doesn't go, the possibility is zero. In my opinion, dropping after this round, in any recruitment (SEC, Big 10 or whatever) is the biggest mistake PNMs make. Dropping after round 1 because sorority life is not for you...I get. She has had about 65 minutes with these girls. She has heard years of rumors and "tent talk". She needs to seperate her ears from her heart and give any of the wonderful women that are welcoming her to their home a shot. She should establish a relationship durning a new member period before considering dismissing a group on what now is only speculation

Well said!!! This is an emotional week for EVERYONE and it can be hard to see clearly through all of the long days, walking, talking, etc. And you are totally right about the really short amount of time spent during this week with girls and when you take the time to really give things a try you can be amazed at the wonderful world of sisterhood, fun, and having that home away from home.