FSU Recruitment 2012 - Page 6

aopi4evr · #1 08-25-2012, 12:29 PM

Just posted my "Places I would like to travel" recruitment story. I think doing this has been therapeutic because I knew things would get rough at this point. I can only say that I hope the girls keep their heads up today and, no matter what, look for the good things in this experience!

NutBrnHair · #2 08-25-2012, 02:27 PM

Waiting to hear from my Pledge Sister how her daughter's experience went. Fingers crossed!

NutBrnHair · #3 08-26-2012, 05:58 PM

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Waiting to hear from my Pledge Sister how her daughter's experience went. Fingers crossed!

Another Chi Omega in her family!!! Yay.

XOtillIdieO · #4 08-27-2012, 09:39 AM

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Another Chi Omega in her family!!! Yay.

Ahhh congratulations!! Gamma chapter is such an amazing sisterhood

NutBrnHair · #5 08-27-2012, 12:08 PM

No news from debann127?

debann127 · #6 08-25-2012, 02:46 PM

Well, I talked her into going to the parties...........and I hope something good emerges from it. I think she is at the end of her rope and its ripping my heart out because I know if she follows thru she will be happy. Im just wondering if in fact she only likes one should she suicide. What are the ramifications of that? Anyone know?

NutBrnHair · #7 08-25-2012, 02:58 PM

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Well, I talked her into going to the parties...........and I hope something good emerges from it. I think she is at the end of her rope and its ripping my heart out because I know if she follows thru she will be happy. Im just wondering if in fact she only likes one should she suicide. What are the ramifications of that? Anyone know?

What are the ramifications? If she suicides and doesn't get it, she's not going to be in a sorority (on Bid Day 2012, anyway). If she chooses to list her other options, she might get her 1st, 2nd or 3rd choice... and there are many who can tell you it can still work out for the best.

Reading your comments during the week, it looks like she's warmed up to more groups than she initially liked. That can still happen.

pinapple · #8 08-25-2012, 06:00 PM

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Im just wondering if in fact she only likes one should she suicide. What are the ramifications of that? Anyone know?

The ramifications are extensive. She has a much greater chance of walking to her room empty handed. That means zero choice. So she goes to three pref parties and ranks 1-2-3. Her best case she opens her envelope to reveal her #1 choice. She might also open her envelope and have choice 2 or 3. If she suicides, she very well may have no envelope at all, and she could be okay with that. But she needs to get on these boards and read the "I didn't get my first choice" threads. They are eye openers. There are also MANY women who get their first choice and their end result is unhappiness because they bid a reputation and not a reality.

What ever she does (and only she can make the decision that is right for her) she need to tread carefully and not come across as a brat. Many girls that suicide and don't have a positive result will start the "Greek's suck" rant and many that stick it out and get choice 2-3 end up having a "I had to settle" breakdown...publicly...in front of others who's house was their number 1 choice. If she thinks through the scenarios, she needs to be able to live with what she chooses. She can't have regrets and she won't be given a second chance.

By placing a suicide bid, she is either in or out. She can't be out then freak and say well 2 or 3 is better than none. At that point it is too late and not a soul will feel sorry for her. If she can walk away empty handed and not have an iota of regret, then have her go for it. If she ranks out and gets choice 2 or 3, she has a more relaxed 6-8 weeks to make that choice, in my opinion, a much wiser decision.

debann127 · #9 08-25-2012, 06:54 PM

She decided to rank them and then give it a shot for a couple of weeks to see how it goes. Right now she feels as though she is settling but will give it a try. I hope in the weeks to come she will feel happy that she decided to try. I cannot imagine that she will not be happy with the new 200 friends that she has. Its tough but its a big school and its lonely when you only know a few people. Maybe she will feel differently when she wakes up tomorrow. I dont know much about any of these houses, and from what I heard there are 16 great ones at FSU so how bad could it be.

PKTKKG · #10 08-25-2012, 07:15 PM

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She decided to rank them and then give it a shot for a couple of weeks to see how it goes. Right now she feels as though she is settling but will give it a try. I hope in the weeks to come she will feel happy that she decided to try. I cannot imagine that she will not be happy with the new 200 friends that she has. Its tough but its a big school and its lonely when you only know a few people. Maybe she will feel differently when she wakes up tomorrow. I dont know much about any of these houses, and from what I heard there are 16 great ones at FSU so how bad could it be.

That is great! You never know until you try. I know I could have been happy with either of my preferences and I have always been so happy I went Greek. Any of those chapters on her pref card will welcome her with open arms tomorrow!!!

FSUZeta · #11 08-25-2012, 07:31 PM

Can't wait to hear where these PNMs end up!

honeychile · #12 08-25-2012, 11:29 PM

I feel as if I'm going to start biting my nails on this one!

MaryPoppins · #13 08-26-2012, 08:12 AM

Shannon was very courageous to make that decision. She has my best wishes for happiness and her college career. May she continue to keep an open mind, it is a very precious commodity. And should Greek life find her again, may it be what she knows is right for her.

debann127 · #14 08-26-2012, 09:35 AM

Good Luck to Shannon!!!!! I wonder how many of the 1580 girls are still involved in this process or should I call it a marathon? Well last night I got a text from daughter that she is excited about ABC house. Two of her best friends there made the same house their first choice. So I think that new information made her situation a bit more pleasant. Hopefully all three will get their 1st choice and I can send flowers to the house for all three of them. That would be a perfect world.
I've never been involved in greek life so thank you all for helping me thru this nail biter. She did tell me that the girls told her that she would fit into the house and she did tell them that this is the only house out of the three that she could see herself in. So hopefully that was enough for them to know that she would put them as her first choice and somehow she got on the A list. What do you all think?

Thank you,,,,,,,sitting here biting nails until 4pm. (Now thats an attractive picture,,ha)

AZTheta · #15 08-26-2012, 10:59 AM

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I'm glad to hear that! Most of us don't get to attend Harvard, marry Brad Pitt, or earn a million dollars a year. In other words, most of the wonderful gifts in our lives are "settling." We would be lost without them!

Perfectly said. Thank you!

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That is great! You never know until you try. I know I could have been happy with either of my preferences and I have always been so happy I went Greek. Any of those chapters on her pref card will welcome her with open arms tomorrow!!!

Me too. We were both fortunate to love our preference choices; I do understand that not every PNM feels the same.

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Thought I would let you know that Shannon faithfully attended all of her parties, including the preference round, and did her best to keep an open mind to the end, but decided not to turn in a signed bid card.

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One more thing...we wish the best of luck to the rest of the PNMs.

You, sir, are a class act. I wish your daughter all the best.

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...I've never been involved in greek life so thank you all for helping me thru this nail biter. She did tell me that the girls told her that she would fit into the house and she did tell them that this is the only house out of the three that she could see herself in. So hopefully that was enough for them to know that she would put them as her first choice and somehow she got on the A list. What do you all think?

Thank you,,,,,,,sitting here biting nails until 4pm. (Now thats an attractive picture,,ha)

debann, you probably already know that we can't tell you anything about where your daughter was on any chapter's list. It's membership selection, which is private to each chapter and differs from chapter to chapter. There are so many factors and variables at play. That said, I am sending you lots of strength today, and I hope your daughter and her friends are happy. Go for a walk or go to a movie to distract yourself until you get the news. I am thinking of you, and all the moms and dads who are waiting.