RFMs and QAs

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

How nice that you finally remembered your sorority again now that it could benefit your daughter. Sorry all, but I'm sick to death of alumnae like this.

So you're basically sick to death of the 95 percent of your initiates who don't do anything with their organizations after they graduate.

Yeah, that would piss me off, too.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

So you're basically sick to death of the 95 percent of your initiates who don't do anything with their organizations after they graduate.

Yeah, that would piss me off, too.

That would be correct, but particularly the ones who don't have time for us until they have a college aged daughter. Then they want us to jump up and do everything for them. I'm tired of dealing with the calls about how snowflake legacy got cut even though mom "was" an XYZ. Never mind that she hasn't bothered to even pay dues for a couple of decades.

We're all busy. We all have lives. Most involved alumnae I know have kids. I had four of them and still managed to volunteer even in the years we lived in BFE. There are ample opportunities to volunteer that don't require your physical presence.

Deciding to be inactive is one thing. It's the coming back and giggling about how inactive you've been and expecting special snowflake treatment that sticks in my craw.

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

That would be correct, but particularly the ones who don't have time for us until they have a college aged daughter. Then they want us to jump up and do everything for them. I'm tired of dealing with the calls about how snowflake legacy got cut even though mom "was" an XYZ. Never mind that she hasn't bothered to even pay dues for a couple of decades.

We're all busy. We all have lives. Most involved alumnae I know have kids. I had four of them and still managed to volunteer even in the years we lived in BFE. There are ample opportunities to volunteer that don't require your physical presence.

Deciding to be inactive is one thing. It's the coming back and giggling about how inactive you've been and expecting special snowflake treatment that sticks in my craw.

Which is not at all what the OP did.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by DGTess

Which is not at all what the OP did.

I'm sorry but I haven't been very active with my sorority alumnae organization the last ten years. But I have a renewed interest in sorority life now that my daughter is heavily involved in recruitment at one of the most competitive universities says to me that 1) I haven't been involved 2) Now tell me everything about RFM and QAs because now my daughter is involved.

[KD4Me]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

That would be correct, but particularly the ones who don't have time for us until they have a college aged daughter. Then they want us to jump up and do everything for them. I'm tired of dealing with the calls about how snowflake legacy got cut even though mom "was" an XYZ. Never mind that she hasn't bothered to even pay dues for a couple of decades.

We're all busy. We all have lives. Most involved alumnae I know have kids. I had four of them and still managed to volunteer even in the years we lived in BFE. There are ample opportunities to volunteer that don't require your physical presence.

Deciding to be inactive is one thing. It's the coming back and giggling about how inactive you've been and expecting special snowflake treatment that sticks in my craw.

Many very involved alumnae, even those who serve at the national level, do have times in their lives when they are not involved with the organizations. Life happens. When something sparks an interest and they come back, it doesn't do any good to jump on them for having been gone.

Welcome, SECKDlady.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

That would be correct, but particularly the ones who don't have time for us until they have a college aged daughter. Then they want us to jump up and do everything for them. I'm tired of dealing with the calls about how snowflake legacy got cut even though mom "was" an XYZ. Never mind that she hasn't bothered to even pay dues for a couple of decades.

We're all busy. We all have lives. Most involved alumnae I know have kids. I had four of them and still managed to volunteer even in the years we lived in BFE. There are ample opportunities to volunteer that don't require your physical presence.

Deciding to be inactive is one thing. It's the coming back and giggling about how inactive you've been and expecting special snowflake treatment that sticks in my craw.

IMO there's a big difference between "I haven't been an active alum & I'd like to learn about these new NPC policies/procedures." and "I haven't been an active alum, how could you drop my daughter???"

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by Zillini

IMO there's a big difference between "I haven't been an active alum & I'd like to learn about these new NPC policies/procedures." and "I haven't been an active alum, how could you drop my daughter???"

Perhaps. But right now "I'm not an active alumna" is making my head explode between dealing with lack of alumnae recruitment help and fielding uninvolved momma bear calls (three just today.) So this is a real hot button issue for me.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Perhaps. But right now "I'm not an active alumna" is making my head explode between dealing with lack of alumnae recruitment help and fielding uninvolved momma bear calls (three just today.) So this is a real hot button issue for me.

Fair enough. But that's not OP. Her daughter is already rushed, pledged and initiated.

And don't look at me. I only have boys. It's a total sausage fest at my house.

Good luck with recruitment GoG. It's stressful.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

Perhaps. But right now "I'm not an active alumna" is making my head explode between dealing with lack of alumnae recruitment help and fielding uninvolved momma bear calls (three just today.) So this is a real hot button issue for me.

I def understand this frustration. I've tried to find advisors for collegiate chapters and been turned down over and over...tried to get a few of the 100+ alumnae in a town to have 3 or 4 alum meetings a year. As an alum panhellenic officer we have, EVERY year, Greek mamas who haven't lifted a finger for 20 or 30 years until DD comes to our tea.
But I do try to slap a smile onto my face (or into my voice) that says "welcome back, we missed you and need you."
I have seen where these women get re-involved at that point (yes, even when DD does not pledge mama's sorority) and serve on regional and national levels.