Alabama Sorority Costs...Can anyone help?

[jll]

Titchou....someday you will have kids and you will understand the difference between helicopter parenting and just plain parenting. I am not running her life, but I have to make sure that she understands the ramifications of her choices. No she cannot work, this is not her decision, but one that highly advised by the Dean of her major. Trust me, I worked 40 hours a week and finished my last 2 years of school in 1 1/2, on dean's list. Hard work doesn't scare her.

Sorry, but this is a "WE" decision. WE are paying the bills and SHE needs to be aware of the cost factor. We need to consider the needs of the family as a whole. This is difficult to do when the financial information is about impossible to find. No my D did not get his information prior to recruitment, no they did not hand it out at Preview, no we cannot find this info thru any channels. Her Rho Chi does not have it either. D has asked. There is no BS.

I do not want to set her up for heartbreak and regret by telling her that we will make it work, when we can't. We did the best that we could with the info that we had. Shame on UA Greek System for not making the financial information readily available. I know for a fact that we are not the only family in this situation. D's roommate and another girl that she met in her group all have the same issue's.

I sincerely appreciate everyone's helpful advice, it is so nice to know that people care about one lone student and a desperate mom. Those who wish to judge me I can only say that someday you will understand how incredibly difficult it is to be the mama. I will post and let you know how it all works out. I am confident that it will.

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by jll

Titchou....someday you will have kids and you will understand the difference between helicopter parenting and just plain parenting. I am not running her life, but I have to make sure that she understands the ramifications of her choices. No she cannot work, this is not her decision, but one that highly advised by the Dean of her major. Trust me, I worked 40 hours a week and finished my last 2 years of school in 1 1/2, on dean's list. Hard work doesn't scare her.

Sorry, but this is a "WE" decision. WE are paying the bills and SHE needs to be aware of the cost factor. We need to consider the needs of the family as a whole. This is difficult to do when the financial information is about impossible to find. No my D did not get his information prior to recruitment, no they did not hand it out at Preview, no we cannot find this info thru any channels. Her Rho Chi does not have it either. D has asked. There is no BS.


I will post and let you know how it all works out. I am confident that it will.

I can respect all of this. My parents did nothing to help me grasp the concept of money when I started college. As a result, I still have $40,000 in student loans. Had I truly understood what it meant to take out all those loans, I would have changed things.

I wish her the best, jll. Please let us know how it goes.