University of Texas Recruitment August 21-28, 2012

[DubaiSis]

Princessluv8, there is NOTHING you can do about any of those things at this point, so try to stop worrying about it. Focus on having a good time and that's all you can do. Also, you've made yourself completely detectable based on your description of yourself, so I would refrain from posting any more information publicly on this site. Try to keep a positive attitude, and let us know how it turns out in the end. Good luck!

eta/I added the qfp so my response would make sense, but as pinapple has suggested, I'm deleting for the protection of the rushee.

[pinapple]

I think it would be in Princessluv8's best interest if DubaiSis would remove her QFP and Princessluv8 edits her post to remove identifying information.

Now back to the thread already in progress....Ladybugmom is correct...bids are released at 5:00 and each house will have a group of actives waiting outside the auditorium doors with signs that identify that particular chapter. All new PNMs of each house walk behind the sign and I believe really enjoy this time to talk to each other because once they get to the house, shirts are changing and/or actives take PNMs to their dorms to change, depending on what activity each house does. Most houses take their PNMs to dinner (charter buses ususally show up to the houses to pick the girls up) Most houses also give their PNMs a huge basket full of goodies to celebrate their new house. Some actives stay behind and go on a room/door decorating fest so when the PNMs get back from their activity they are greated at their rooms with their sorority letters. I find that so much fun!

On a different note, although bid day is about celebration, for some PNMs it is a day of confussion and disappointing results. When an envelope is opened and a house revealed that was not the PNMs first choice, this can be a very, very hard day. I think it is SO important for their to be appointed actives to pull these girls aside (hopefully happy actives that didn't get their first choice either and now can't imagine being any where else) and try to let them know that these feelings are natural and to stress how happy the active is that this particular PNM is here. It would be really nice for a PNM that just can't handle a "celebration" that an active take that PNM to dinner one to one to help her make a transition in a situation she may not want to be in. Usually this drastic of a situation is not warranted, but it can happen and having a back up plan would be really smart for most houses. It is equally has hard for girls to witness that who are at the house because it was their number one choice and as most young women are compassionate people, may feel the need to harbour their excitement to protect the feelings of a hurt PNM.

Best of luck to all the UT PNMs and actives...here is to a wonderful work week and wonderful recruitment.

[Ladybugmom]

I think that is a wonderful suggestion Pineapple. Let's face it, there are probably just as many girls that get thier second or third choice than there are that get thier first choice. Im sure if you polled many of the PNM's they would tell you just that..however, they would also say that things worked out for them and they couldn't see themselves anywhere eles.

There needs to be a system in place to try to help these PNM's see that the system works. If they will just stick it out, they can have a wonderful experience.

One of the saddest things is to hear of a girl that drops because of 'tent" talk or other pre-concieved notions and then finds that she could have been really happy with what she had..she sees that girls that she really likes or respects stuck it out and went with that particular house or houses and she regrets her decison..but at that point it's too late..my daughter told many stories just like this...