Mutual Selection in Formal Recruitment: Not So Mutual? For PNMs and Parents.

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

That's why I take issue sometimes with PNMs saying "Well I just didn't feel like I fit there."

Um, that chapter has 150 women. How does one "not fit" with 150 people?

Or "This chapter is all _______." The more people there are in a group, the less likely it is that they're all ___________. Ex: You can't really say that XYZ is "all athletes" when it has 130 women.

A million times this! I honestly believe that if you had put all the sororities on my campus in a hat and pulled one at random, I could have joined and been completely fine.

What I loved about my sorority experience is that we had every kind of sister in the house, so if you wanted to party, or study, or worship, or watch movies - there was always someone there who was up for that.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

A million times this! I honestly believe that if you had put all the sororities on my campus in a hat and pulled one at random, I could have joined and been completely fine.

Obligatory: What if I end up in Slytherin?

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Obligatory: What if I end up in Slytherin?

Perhaps you should consult your Rho Chi.

Or, you know - drop out and start your own sorority.

[carnation]

Y'all know the Pottermore game site? You would not believe how many people there get sorted into Slytherin and ask if they can be re-sorted. Therefore, the site has an information page that says that no one will be re-sorted, that the Hat's decision is final. As you can guess, many people re-register on the site under a different name and provide different answers to the questions.

It would be kind of a shock to do that and be put into Slytherin again.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Obligatory: What if I end up in Slytherin?

You should keep an open mind and give it a shot.

Despite the tent talk, I've known some perfectly wonderful people who were Slytherins.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by KDCat

You should keep an open mind and give it a shot.

Despite the tent talk, I've known some perfectly wonderful people who were Slytherins.

<3

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

<3

Great fame and glory might be yours if you join Slytherin

( course they only take legacies...)

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by HQWest

Great fame and glory might be yours if you join Slytherin

( course they only take legacies...)

<3 was for the quoting of Dumbledore

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

A million times this! I honestly believe that if you had put all the sororities on my campus in a hat and pulled one at random, I could have joined and been completely fine.

What I loved about my sorority experience is that we had every kind of sister in the house, so if you wanted to party, or study, or worship, or watch movies - there was always someone there who was up for that.

Exactly. I can say the same about my own chapter and we had maybe 60ish.

I find that the only time the "I don't fit" thing is valid, is when you're dealing with chapters of like 30 women. I might buy it if you were rushing at a school like one of the chapters I work with, where there are 3 chapters and they're all 30 or fewer members. There is a definite possibility that the chapters have a very distinct identity because there are so few people.

Other than that, no.