REALLY HOPING TO GET HELP ON THIS, LET ME KNOW IF YOU KNOW WHAT I SHOULD DO! Thanks!!

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by ekozel

Hi Greeks and Sisters!! I need help with something I'm really confused about and thought I'd post on here and see if anyone could help me!

I accepted my bid from ADPi this past fall (2011) in late September, and ended up having to leave school suddenly for medical reasons right before I was able to initiate. I have made the decision to not return to the university I attended last fall, and am transferring to another school that also has an ADPi chapter. I truly would LOVE to stay a part of ADPi at my new school and join a new chapter of sisters, however I obviously need to decide if this new chapter is a good fit for me first, but I'm not sure how this whole process works. I know I have a contract with the sorority that I cannot go through recruitment for any other sorority for one calander year, however even if I chose to, my new school's recruitment is much earlier than my old school's was, so my year contract will not have expired.

I was curious if there was a certain way this situation is handled? I know initiated members can join chapters at other schools without much of an issue, but what about Alphas? I know this is a very rare circumstance, so I don't know who would know the answer to this, but I'm trying to figure out what to do!

Honestly, I do NOT intend on joining a sorority if this new ADPi chapter does not work out for me. I committed myself to ADPi when I accepted my bid and have no interest in trying to dedicate myself to any other sorority even if I could, not that I wouldnt love another sorority, its just that I wouldnt feel right doing that. I just don't know how to handle the process at all. I also do not know who to contact at my new school regarding this situation and am so confused!

If ANYONE can help me out, I'd be so thankful! Thank you!!

QFP, just in case its ....her.....

[33girl]

You didn't initiate. Your year is up, plus you are transferring. You are no longer a part of ADPi, at any chapter. You owe them nothing, and they owe you nothing.

Also, the one year rule doesn't mean a calendar year, it's the spirit of a calendar year. If at School #1 your rush was from August 11-18 and you received your bid on the 18th, it doesn't mean that you are not allowed to rush and hopefully receive a bid at School #2, if their rush is September 20-27 and you receive a bid on the 27th. You can rush at School #2 with no problem. I advise you to do so without any feelings of "loyalty" or "commitment" that simply do not exist. Go into rush at your new school with a completely open mind.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You didn't initiate. Your year is up, plus you are transferring. You are no longer a part of ADPi, at any chapter. You owe them nothing, and they owe you nothing.

This. I certainly don't mean to be rude, but unless ADPi follows a different rule than we do, she isn't an ADPi NM anymore.

I'm not trying to be mean, but you mention being "committed to ADPi."

I'd hate for you to be thinking you're an ADPi when you are not.

Or that ADPi is obligated to bid you. They aren't.

It's also potentially offensive to a chapter member for someone to walk into recruitment and be all "I pledged ADPi at another school, I'm meant to be ADPi and I love ADPi just like you."

Also, it's not a matter of "If I don't get a bid, I'll just stay ADPi" or "I couldn't bring myself to be in anything other than ADPi" because you're not one to begin with. Whether you rush or not, you're still not one. You did not initiate and you depledged almost a year ago. It's really important for you to understand that.

I'd hate for you to have that attitude and really creep out an ACTUAL initiated ADPi.

This is not me saying that ADPi at your new school wouldn't extend you a bid. Just clarifying what depledging means.

[honeychile]

ekozel, our Panhellenic Sisters have given you good advice. In my heart, I hope that you DO love the ADPi chapter at your new university, and you DO get a bid - but it's not a given by any means. You should treat this just as you did last year, only I would contact at least one of the Alumnae Advisors and get a rec. Hopefully, she will say that you are a rock star, and that it would be a treat to have you as a New Member!

That said, according to the NPC, you're no longer an ADPi New Member, and your one year is over, just as the ladies above said. You will be treated just like the other PNMs. I'm not sure if you should immediatelyl tell the new ADPi sisters about the last college, but it will come up at some point.

Again, be sure that you get a rec from an Advisor or even someone in an Executive Office at the last school. The new ADPi will want to know that you were a great New Member until you got sick.

Good luck, however it works out, and please come back and let us know how it did work for you!