Multiple Recs Showing Favoritism?

[afwilliams]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

Having multiple recs are fine up to a point. One or two is great especially if you are going to a competitive school where they are needed. If we are talking about four or more recs then it is a little overboard. Members rarely say that they have received recs for PNMs to people outside of their chapter.

Yes it would only be in that 1-2 rec group, no more than that, and thank you for the response

[AOII Angel]

One chapter will not know how many recs you have to another chapter. Depending on where you go to school, one rec may be plenty. If you are going to a highly competitive SEC school, two or more may be okay, but try not to be excessive.

[AnchorAlumna]

If anybody offers to write you a rec for a sorority that you've already got 2 or more for, for heaven's sake don't turn them down! Be gracious and say thank you.
Besides, all those who write recs may not get around to it...or forget...or do it too late...you won't know exactly how many you have.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

If anybody offers to write you a rec for a sorority that you've already got 2 or more for, for heaven's sake don't turn them down! Be gracious and say thank you.
Besides, all those who write recs may not get around to it...or forget...or do it too late...you won't know exactly how many you have.

Very, very true!

[thetalady]

I think you need to step back from the computer and think long and hard about making some decisions before you worry about recs.

NPC or NPHC... that is a HUGE decision that you haven't even made yet. Please don't think that you will get a shot at both. Ain't going to happen.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I think you need to step back from the computer and think long and hard about making some decisions before you worry about recs.

NPC or NPHC... that is a HUGE decision that you haven't even made yet. Please don't think that you will get a shot at both. Ain't going to happen.

If she is going to a school where if your greatest shot at joining an NPC as a first semester freshman, but you can't join an NPHC until you're a sophomore, I personally don't see anything wrong with maximizing the odds. Do NPC and NPHC women really compare notes like that? Will an NPHC woman have memory of NPC rush *the year before?*

In any case, there's nothing wrong with gathering recs now and changing her mind later, right? Wouldn't that be the wise thing to do - have your bases covered?

ETA: Unless you were suggesting that she can't be a *member* of both or shouldn't actually begin pledging an NPC until she's made her mind up, which I agree with.

[afwilliams]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

If she is going to a school where if your greatest shot at joining an NPC as a first semester freshman, but you can't join an NPHC until you're a sophomore, I personally don't see anything wrong with maximizing the odds. Do NPC and NPHC women really compare notes like that? Will an NPHC woman have memory of NPC rush *the year before?*

In any case, there's nothing wrong with gathering recs now and changing her mind later, right? Wouldn't that be the wise thing to do - have your bases covered?

Thank you Senusret. That is my goal in all of this, to be prepared. I would rather have the recs than not and be put at a disadvantage.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

If she is going to a school where if your greatest shot at joining an NPC as a first semester freshman, but you can't join an NPHC until you're a sophomore, I personally don't see anything wrong with maximizing the odds. Do NPC and NPHC women really compare notes like that? Will an NPHC woman have memory of NPC rush *the year before?*

In any case, there's nothing wrong with gathering recs now and changing her mind later, right? Wouldn't that be the wise thing to do - have your bases covered?

ETA: Unless you were suggesting that she can't be a *member* of both or shouldn't actually begin pledging an NPC until she's made her mind up, which I agree with.

Maybe not "compare notes", but if afwilliams is attending a PWI with a small AfAm student population, nothing needs to be said because it will get noticed and word will spread that way.

If afwilliams has an unsuccessful NPC recruitment then tries NPHC I'm almost certain she will not be looked on favorably by the NPHC sororities. Why? Because those women in the NPHC sororities will interpret that as us being her "sloppy seconds". This may not happen, but it also very well could.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Do NPC and NPHC women really compare notes like that? Will an NPHC woman have memory of NPC rush *the year before?*

At some schools, yes.

Originally Posted by Senusret I

ETA: Unless you were suggesting that she can't be a *member* of both or shouldn't actually begin pledging an NPC until she's made her mind up, which I agree with.

I also agree.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Do NPC and NPHC women really compare notes like that? Will an NPHC woman have memory of NPC rush *the year before?*

SERIOUSLY? You think that if pledging an NPC doesn't work out that the campus NPHC organizations might not know? and even more, won't CARE that she tried to join an NPC organization first & came to them only after her attempt to join an NPC group failed?

Really don't see that happening....

[afwilliams]

Just a little clarification, I am preparing for both NPC and NPHC. I have not ultimately decided where I would like to become a member at just yet. I have weighed the pros and cons of both and understand that I cannot be a member in both. I also know that it is a serious decision because of the lifetime commitment and it shouldn't be taken lightly.

I am getting recs for NPC so that if I decide to go that route I won't be scrambling at the last minute. I have even started to make a list off sorority women from NPHC that I can go to when that time comes for letters of recommendation.

Although I truly want to be a part of sorority life, I would not consider one or the other a "back-up". I feel that I could be happy in either group. I am just asking the question about NPC recs because that is the first event that will come up if I decide to go that route.

I know that I still have a lot of thinking to do, I just want to have all my bases covered no matter which way I go

[afwilliams]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

If anybody offers to write you a rec for a sorority that you've already got 2 or more for, for heaven's sake don't turn them down! Be gracious and say thank you.
Besides, all those who write recs may not get around to it...or forget...or do it too late...you won't know exactly how many you have.

Thank you for that info!