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Originally Posted by DZsis&mom
Why is it embarrassing for a parent to step in and assist their child in a situation that seemed to be spiraling out of control?
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Because at some point you have to cut the umbilical cord. Also, in this case, mother interjecting herself into a situation which was none of her business could not possibly have helped the situation. When I was an active chapter officer, I had a member's mother call HQ about something I did. She leveled some pretty serious (and totally false) allegations against me and another officer. The other officer got a call from HQ, and this mother and her child were kind of the running joke around there. You call HQ because your daughter can't do it and it's very unlikely anyone is going to take her seriously. In fact, if the chapter processed her out for some reason, your activities in this department are right or wrong confirming to the folks at HQ that indeed there was something wrong with this girl.
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Sometimes 18 to 21 year old girls need their mothers more then 14 yr olds do...& until you are mother of one - Please do not be so quick to judge a mother's choice to assist her daughter if she was crying for help. (if the girl accusations are correct or not) (once a mother cat - always a mother cat )
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"Until you are mother" is such a crap cop out. We don't have kids. My wife is a high school teacher... I guess until she's a mother, she's unfit to teach children? I handle a lot of child custody cases and represent children pro bono in the juvenile system against their idiot parents... I guess I'm unfit to do that because I don't have children myself?
Being a mother doesn't grant you magical insight. In fact, in my experience, it actually makes you a lot less objective about things and can lead to poor decisions such as driving to your daughter's HQ to fight battles which are not your own. If you're fighting all of your daughter's battles for her, are you doing that so you can feel good or are you doing it because it's going to help your daughter learn how to be an adult?
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