thinking of dropping..advice please!!

[sdtennisgal]

Jen: I think you have gotten some great advice on here, and I think KDCat probably made a great diagnosis that a lot of what you are feeling is general homesickness, etc. All of us went through it in one form or another. Unfortunately, a lot of girls think that joining a sorority will create an "instant home away from home."

Some of the best advice given was GET INVOLVED. Volunteer for something you are interested in within the sorority, or even something you have never had any interest in before to expand your horizons. For me, the closest friends I developed in college where those who I ended up working with on something, as challenges and common experiences bring people together. I think you will see the same will be true for your overall college experience as well (when you go from large lecture classes to smaller classes in your major you will start bonding more and more with your fellow students).

We have all been there in one form or another. Hang in there!

[SOPi_Jawbreaker]

When i was pledging my sorority, the pledge period felt like "it's all about us". But after i crossed, it felt like "hey, what about us?" It felt a little like we were no longer special and the focus of all the sisters' attention. It was back to sorority business as usual...elections and planning rush for the next semester/next class. It was a bit of an adjustment for me. The next semester i went to as many events as i could and i volunteered any time any sisters needed someone to help out with something. It really helped me to feel included and to bond with sisters.

Like other posters have mentioned, stick with it. Keep going to events. Try volunteering for comittees and projects. And give it at least another year. The girls you become closest with may still be to come. I crossed into my sorority almost ten years ago and graduated almost six years ago. And the girls that i'm closest with and still hang out with are girls that crossed three and four pledge classes after me.