Dating/trusting a frat boy?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek?

#1. This is a hard lesson but never go up to a fraternity man's room unless you want people to think what they're now thinking about you.

#2. You're not "dating." You should have no expectations of his behavior at this party or any other time.

#1. This is such a double standard and ridiculous in this day and age. Boys (and girls for that matter) are always going to lie, even if no one's room was involved in the least. I doubt that anyone is "thinking" about her at all...unless it's as...

#2. "OMG, all they did was suck face and now she thinks she's his girlfriend or something. Stalker alert!"

OP - some guys are the guy that every girl loves and who flirt with everyone. They are also usually the guys who when they DO fall, they fall hard. The closest way to completely ruin your chances with this man is by being paranoid. MC is right, you are NOWHERE NEAR dating. You sucked face. That was it. If you get all stalkery and paranoid, people ARE going to think you slept with him. Tell him to have fun at the party, and see where it goes when you both get back to school.

[peacelovegreek]

Originally Posted by 33girl

#1. This is such a double standard and ridiculous in this day and age. Boys (and girls for that matter) are always going to lie, even if no one's room was involved in the least. I doubt that anyone is "thinking" about her at all...unless it's as...

#2. "OMG, all they did was suck face and now she thinks she's his girlfriend or something. Stalker alert!"

OP - some guys are the guy that every girl loves and who flirt with everyone. They are also usually the guys who when they DO fall, they fall hard. The closest way to completely ruin your chances with this man is by being paranoid. MC is right, you are NOWHERE NEAR dating. You sucked face. That was it. If you get all stalkery and paranoid, people ARE going to think you slept with him. Tell him to have fun at the party, and see where it goes when you both get back to school.

OMG by no means did I intend to be crazy person, although it seems evident. But he walked me back to the library and did mention "I guess we're dating now" but it seemed sarcastic in my view

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by 33girl

#1. This is such a double standard and ridiculous in this day and age. Boys (and girls for that matter) are always going to lie, even if no one's room was involved in the least. I doubt that anyone is "thinking" about her at all...unless it's as...

#2. "OMG, all they did was suck face and now she thinks she's his girlfriend or something. Stalker alert!"

OP - some guys are the guy that every girl loves and who flirt with everyone. They are also usually the guys who when they DO fall, they fall hard. The closest way to completely ruin your chances with this man is by being paranoid. MC is right, you are NOWHERE NEAR dating. You sucked face. That was it. If you get all stalkery and paranoid, people ARE going to think you slept with him. Tell him to have fun at the party, and see where it goes when you both get back to school.

No one said it was fair. It's just the reality of the situation. People are going to gossip, but you don't need to hand it to them by going up to some guy's room.