Ordering high end on the first date. Is it rude or is it just me?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

How much I agree/disagree with his overall take is an open question (we only know about what he posted) but I can see why her menu action may have put some level of unsureness about her in his mind.

As I've said on this thread, I'm in the camp of someone not paying for the meal always ordering from the middle of the menu That is, unless it's very clear from the hosts' cues or from context that it's okay to go more expensive.

He told her to order whatever she wanted. She had two choices: to assume he was just being polite (in which case, why say it to begin with? Is heafraid she'll think she can't order what she wants?), or to assume he was being sincere. He really can't complain that she did what he asked her to do.

[TonyB06]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

As I've said on this thread, I'm in the camp of someone not paying for the meal always ordering from the middle of the menu That is, unless it's very clear from the hosts' cues or from context that it's okay to go more expensive.

He told her to order whatever she wanted. She had two choices: to assume he was just being polite (in which case, why say it to begin with? Is heafraid she'll think she can't order what she wants?), or to assume he was being sincere. He really can't complain that she did what he asked her to do.

And I'm saying no matter what he told her, it's still "polite" (particularly on a first date) to order from the middle.

As to whether Centaur was "afraid" of anything or not, you'd have to ask him. We can debate how important pure transparancy is on a first date (such is the nature of GC), but he handled it the way he felt he should.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

We can debate how important pure transparancy is on a first date (such is the nature of GC), but he handled it the way he felt he should.

And he got what he asked for. That's what I'm saying -- regardless of whether it would have been polite for her to order from the middle of the menu anyway, he forfeits the right to complain if he invites her to order anything she wanted.