under total, negative stereotypes, not sure what to do?

[PizzaLove]

My chapter went through the exact same thing, so trust me, you can get through it. To second what has already been said, you and your sisters need to make sure you are putting forth the best presentation possible on campus. This doesn't mean you should downplay any members who don't fit a certain image. This means everyone in your chapter should make sure she is looking her personal best and wearing letters everyday. I mean hair and make-up done, and flattering outfits for whatever her body type. I'm guessing that since you didn't even know that your group had the stereotype of being "fat," it probably isn't even anywhere near accurate. Getting your members out there will show everyone what your image truly is. The most important thing is to show confidence always. If you are worried about people's perceptions of your letters and your sorority then do not let it show! People are attracted to confidence and they need to see that you have a real sisterhood with values that do not depend on how skinny you are. You and your sisters need to put in a lot of hard work by participating in campus events and being seen having fun (in a classy way of course). I know what you are going through, and I hate that so much emphasis is placed on appearance in our society. I know and understand that to keep a chapter going, you do have to focus on image to some extent, but remember that your experience is defined by the quality of the people you are with. 20 years from now, is it going to be important to tell people that you had really hot sisters in college, or is it going to be important to introduce them to the best friends from your chapter who are still a huge part of your life? Showing everyone on campus that you take pride in your organization is the key. Whether your members fit the "ideal" image or not, most pnms want to know that they will have a meaningful experience. So focus on proving that a meaningful experience will be gained through your membership. Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions or want to chat!