Thoughts from Someone Who Went Through Formal Recruitment

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by Anonymity

They had such strong bonds of sisterhood. They weren't just best friends they were like sisters. They called each other out on their BS and would get into silly arguments.

??????? You got all that from several chapters in a couple rounds before preference?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

??????? You got all that from several chapters in a couple rounds before preference?

Um, yeah exactly...speaking of calling BS

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

??????? You got all that from several chapters in a couple rounds before preference?

This is the fallacy of rush. Girls who are better at it make it look like their sisterhood, their friendships, hell, their mere existence is somehow BETTER than those of other girls. But as I've said here ad nauseum, it's the system we're stuck with and girls who can't see the big picture are going to continue to suffer from the illusion (allusion? delusion?). I would contend that there is ZERO correlation between the quality of a chapter's ability to rush and their sisterhood, friendships or long term benefits. So what do you do? Suck it up and trust the process is the best I can come up with.

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

This is the fallacy of rush. Girls who are better at it make it look like their sisterhood, their friendships, hell, their mere existence is somehow BETTER than those of other girls. But as I've said here ad nauseum, it's the system we're stuck with and girls who can't see the big picture are going to continue to suffer from the illusion (allusion? delusion?). I would contend that there is ZERO correlation between the quality of a chapter's ability to rush and their sisterhood, friendships or long term benefits. So what do you do? Suck it up and trust the process is the best I can come up with.

I 100% agree. There is no correlation. Really, truly, not everyone is a perfect rusher. Not everyone is a perfect public speaker, nor is everyone perfect at arts and crafts, nor does every rushee seem like the perfect person. If you're basing your decision to enter Greek life on some illusion (yeah, I'll stick with illusion) of a "perfect" sisterhood which comes off as perfect during a rush party, then no, you'll never find what you want. If you're willing to dig deeper and go to an informal party (which, honestly, is a lot less pressure cooker-y), then you may be surprised what kind of sisterhood you'll find.

All I can say is that, in the brief moment when I chose to be brave and put myself out there-after a difficult week of formal recruitment-for three weeks of informal recruitment, I made one of my best decisions ever.