Oh, I completely agree, Leslie Anne! I don't mean by "the game" that it's not genuine. But cocktail party chatter is a skill that is more easily learned by some than by others. Some are even excellent at it but are deadly when it comes time for a serious conversation (me). But there are a lot of girls out there who, like SCnongreek, think that because they had an easier time at one chapter, that means it's a better house for them, or in fact the only house for them.
Wonderful advice was given here recently. Think of this as your first day of recruitment and the two chapters are the only ones on the row. Look for the positives in each group and be an enthusiastic and charming possible new member.
The longest part of a woman's NPC sorority experience is as an alumna.