The Real Housewives of NJ

[katydidKD]

I realize there is a lot behind the whole dynamic between Teresa and Melissa/Joe that we don't know about but T does NOT seem to be trying. She has always been one of my favorite housewives but she is unjustly blaming things on Melissa. If it wasn't for Melissa, Teresa wouldn't have seen her brother AT ALL on xmas eve (remember she forced him to go) and Teresa is whining that they didn't stay the whole time because Melissa is a B and hates Teresa and her brother's relationship. Melissa is honestly trying and it seems like she is doing a lot more to help Teresa and Joe's relationship than to harm it like Teresa argues she is.

[LikeASista]

Originally Posted by katydidKD

I realize there is a lot behind the whole dynamic between Teresa and Melissa/Joe that we don't know about but T does NOT seem to be trying. She has always been one of my favorite housewives but she is unjustly blaming things on Melissa. If it wasn't for Melissa, Teresa wouldn't have seen her brother AT ALL on xmas eve (remember she forced him to go) and Teresa is whining that they didn't stay the whole time because Melissa is a B and hates Teresa and her brother's relationship. Melissa is honestly trying and it seems like she is doing a lot more to help Teresa and Joe's relationship than to harm it like Teresa argues she is.

FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Someone else GETS it!! That is exactly what I've been screaming all season. I really believe Melissa is doing everything in her power to get her husband and his sister back to the close relationship they once had. She has been the honest one all this time, and doesn't mind telling Teresa, "Alright, let's get real ... and stop with the fake stuff ..." because it's Teresa who wants to hold grudges. Her beef with Kathy is just ... I don't know, ... stupid. I really like Kathy. Although her presence on the show is not as drama-filled as the rest, I love the unit she's built with her family. She seems like such a good person, and her children are just beautiful. They have the home life that makes me smile.

[rhoyaltempest]

I do see Melissa trying now but it's hard when you just don't like someone and I can tell that Teresa just doesn't like that girl for things we will probably never know about. I have a feeling it goes back to when she first started dating her brother. Teresa appears to be someone that holds grudges a long damn time (I used to be like that so I know; once a person did something to hurt me, that was it...I didn't have to ever speak to you again, family or no family). I can tell that she doesn't like Melissa but will tolerate her because of her brother but doesn't feel it necessary to tolerate Kathy so she doesn't. People like that (who hold grudges a long time...for years even) often have a tough exterior but are really hurt to the core inside (no matter whether the reasons are imagined or actual).

I hope for her family's sake though, that Teresa can forgive and really move forward with everyone.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I do see Melissa trying now but it's hard when you just don't like someone and I can tell that Teresa just doesn't like that girl for things we will probably never know about. I have a feeling it goes back to when she first started dating her brother. Teresa appears to be someone that holds grudges a long damn time (I used to be like that so I know; once a person did something to hurt me, that was it...I didn't have to ever speak to you again, family or no family).
I hope for her family's sake though, that Teresa can forgive and really move forward with everyone.

I completely agree. I wouldn't like someone either who made a comment about being with my brother for $ or sent me a card congratulating me on my re-done home. But, she needs to realize that JOE was the one who didn't even want to come over for an hour on xmas eve!! Melissa forced him for the sake of his relationship with his sister, and then Teresa takes it out on her that they left to go to Kathy's. I love T, I really do, but she needs to get things straight.

[katydidKD]

Originally Posted by LikeASista

FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Someone else GETS it!! That is exactly what I've been screaming all season. I really believe Melissa is doing everything in her power to get her husband and his sister back to the close relationship they once had. She has been the honest one all this time, and doesn't mind telling Teresa, "Alright, let's get real ... and stop with the fake stuff ..." because it's Teresa who wants to hold grudges.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1bmg...mbedded#at=380 at about 6:00 you see Melissa be really genuine about wanting T and J to be happy and loving again. I agree with her. She gets on my nerves sometimes and I love T, but she is so right on this one.

[katydidKD]

LOL!!!! I wanted to be an astronaut when I was seven, and if Joe suddenly built me a rocket ship in our backyard, I think people would be a little shocked. I was a little shocked.


Okay this makes it easier to understand T's behavior

[BetteDavisEyes]

I read the blogs and that's why I have a hard time believing Melissa. From the first episode, everytime she interviewed, she (and Kathy) spent their time trashing Teresa nonstop. It seems like her & Kathy got on the show and spent the majority of their time talking about Teresa & her family. Don't get me wrong. I'm not "Team Teresa" b/c most of the time, she irritates me but I admit I'm similar to her in that when people spend their time trashing me or talking crap, I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. To me, Melissa & Kathy showed their true colors in the beginning of the show and I feel like they're doing "damage control" to their reputations by trying to shift the blame on Teresa for all the family problems.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

I read the blogs and that's why I have a hard time believing Melissa. From the first episode, everytime she interviewed, she (and Kathy) spent their time trashing Teresa nonstop. It seems like her & Kathy got on the show and spent the majority of their time talking about Teresa & her family. Don't get me wrong. I'm not "Team Teresa" b/c most of the time, she irritates me but I admit I'm similar to her in that when people spend their time trashing me or talking crap, I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. To me, Melissa & Kathy showed their true colors in the beginning of the show and I feel like they're doing "damage control" to their reputations by trying to shift the blame on Teresa for all the family problems.

And this is the problem I have with Kathy and Melissa. They want to play so innocent when they do as much trash talking as teresa, even more when they're together and around Melissa's sisters. So I have a hard time believing she's genuine as well although I do see her trying more than Teresa does. Teresa is just more real about her feelings. And I've noticed that Melissa throws digs at Teresa too so it's not just Teresa.

Also, no matter how much you're family is going through, how can you let outside people like Kim G and her lawyer friend who's suing Teresa and Joe, say anything bad and talk crap about your family? Melissa and Kathy are wrong for that. I can talk about my family members but no one else is going to in front of me, especially not strangers.

[BetteDavisEyes]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Also, no matter how much you're family is going through, how can you let outside people like Kim G and her lawyer friend who's suing Teresa and Joe, say anything bad and talk crap about your family? Melissa and Kathy are wrong for that. I can talk about my family members but no one else is going to in front of me, especially not strangers.

THIS!!! Is the a damn like button around here? Lol! The fact that Melissa & Kathy have no problems letting their own siblings, friends and strangers talk crap about a member of their family is wrong. Also, remember the episode at Posche where Melissa stood idly by & even laughed when the other Kim and some other ladies (don't remember who else was there) talk crap about Teresa? Yeah, not cool.

My own hubby does NOT like or get along with one of my sisters. Frankly, he can't stand her but he knows damn well not to talk crap about her in front of me. Regardless of our issues, she's still my sister and I'll defend her even when it's my hubby who has the problem with her.