Did you choose the wrong sorority? - Page 3

SWTXBelle · #1 08-01-2011, 04:06 PM

I will say there is one chapter I discounted right off the bat that now, looking back, I wish I had given a chance.

aab225 · #2 08-03-2011, 03:33 AM

I think I got pretty lucky. From day 1, I was in love with DG and have never been more nervous in my life than when I would walk up to get my schedule each morning. While I liked the other houses, I always checked for DG first before reading the rest. So no, I definitely don't think i'm in the wrong sorority. I know I was absolutely meant to be a Delta Gamma.

als463 · #3 08-03-2011, 06:59 AM

No. I love my sorority. I love what we stand for and I'm proud of the many accomplishments of my sisters! I can honestly say, I'm pretty easy to please and I would have been happy in any of the 26 NPCs but, like Honeychile bleeds Azure and White, I bleed Rose and White. It really drove it home for me how much I love my sisters when that unfortunate event occurred and a sister passed away unexpectedly. My sisters all came together to honor her. It also showed me how much my sisterhood values my education when I was awarded a scholarship. I've met so many incredible women and leaders that I get to call my sisters! Every day, I'm thankful to call myself a member of an NPC and especially a sister of Phi Mu!

tallllchick · #4 08-07-2011, 08:52 PM

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

AlwaysSAI · #5 08-07-2011, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by tallllchick

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

If you have already been initiated, recruitment is not an option for you.

And, what you put into something is what you get out of it. If you haven't made an effort to get to know your sisters and spend time with them outside of chapter/mandatory events, it's not a wonder why you haven't bonded with them.

SWTXBelle · #6 08-07-2011, 08:55 PM

If you are initiated into a NPC sorority re-rushing is not an option.

I am sorry you haven't had a better experience. However, you cannot unring that bell. Your best bet now is to stop playing the "What if. . ." game, and do your best to be active in your chapter and try to bond with a few sisters. It may be that after you graduate you will find a terrific alumnae chapter.

Always AlphaGam · #7 08-07-2011, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by tallllchick

sadly I think I did

Well I don't know. I just don't really bond well with people at my sorority. When I rushed, the sorority I wanted to be in turned me down on the 2nd day (skit day). Recently I kept on wondering if things would be different if I was in that sorority, or any others really.

I know this is sad, but these days I have been thinking about dropping out of my sorority. But I'm gonna be a senior...and I know rushing again as a senior is like almost impossible

blahh.

Assuming this is about NPC sororities...

If you've already been initiated, you won't be able to join another sorority anyway.

LOL we all posted around the same time.

squirrel_love · #8 08-11-2011, 01:07 AM

I love my sorority through and through, but I too, often wonder what would have happened if I had gone to another school. There are quite a few NPC sororities that I would have loved to have been a part of (solely based on research and knowing members of them), but my ala mater only had 2 and only one was NPC. I often find myself seeing pictures of other chapters, whether it be of my sorority or another, and wishing I was a part of that or had what they have.
I did not have a "normal" greek or college experience because of the school I went to, but I tried to make the most of it. Looking back, I could have tried harder and that is something I have to come to terms with; shouldn't have worried so much about sleeping the night before a test instead of making memories with my sisters! lol
I often find myself sad, and down&out about not having the experience I wanted. But, it had nothing to do with the sorority itself. It was just the atmosphere and how things are and are not done at my school.
I now try to put a lot of energy and time in to help the current active sisters of my chapter with anything they need. Throwing out ideas, buying little gifts, etc. It is what you make of it, even as an alumna. So, I want to feel involved and I'll admit, at times I want to feel like I am still a part of it (at the collegiate level).
Do I regret my choice? No. It may not have been the "ideal" situation with a bunch of chapters to essentially chose from, but I loved the women in the chapter when I joined and I loved what Alpha Gamma Delta stood for. I still do and I forever will. <3

violetpretty · #9 08-11-2011, 06:25 PM

Without a doubt, I chose the right sorority for me. Could I have ALSO been happy in other chapters at my campus? Absolutely. Including Sigma Kappa, I think I would have been a good fit in 4 or 5 of 14 chapters at Maryland (and those were chapters that wanted me).

Thing is, you don't get to experience what it is truly like to be a member of another chapter, even if you have a bunch of friends in XYZ, so you really don't know if the grass is greener, even though it might seem greener if you're bummed out about things. You don't know who your big and little would be, if other women would join that other chapter because of you, who you stay up til 2am watching food network with, who you would study with, if you would have a different exec position. It's a waste of time and energy to wonder. I believe at least 90% of your membership exeperience is what YOU make of it. You (for the most part) control how happy you are in your chapter.

I also really think Sigma Kappa fits me well on a national level. I'm proud of who we are throughout history and across the country. However, suppose I went to a school without a Sigma Kappa chapter, like Pitt. Obviously, I could not be a Sigma Kappa, but hopefully if I did, I would still be Greek. Or even if I did go to another school with Sigma Kappa, like Penn State or BU, I may or may not have ended up there. Sometimes it is fun to play the "what chapter would I be in if I went to your school" game with Greek friends from other schools, but it's never more than a fleeting wonder.

AzTriDeezy · #10 08-12-2011, 09:29 PM

Did I choose the wrong sorority? As in, did I pick the wrong one on my preference card? Yes. I did. But did I end up in the wrong one? Absolutely not. Sure, I wanted a different house, but fate knew what was best for me.

I'm sure I could be happy in other chapters, but I honestly couldn't imagine it any other way.

Dutchie · #11 08-15-2011, 09:33 PM

I always have wondered what would have happened if I went to a school with national sororities instead of locals (I do remember someone at my college telling me that the school had local Greek organizations when I visited, but I didn't understand what that meant when I was 17 & making my college decision). Since then, a lot of people question why I would join a local organization. It also hurt me at several places I interviewed at grad schools because they believed there was no way I could work with nation organizations (luckily, where I ended-up, they didn't have an issue with my affiliation).
But even during undergrad, I had a lot of friends in the other sororities and many people where surprised when they found out what sorority I was in. I never really connected with my pledge class (but I did get alone with most of the girls in the pledge class above mine). However, I love my family line and we're really close. Also my sorority's creed describes exactly who I am and what I've always believed in.
I think for where I was, I made the best decision. However, looking back, I should have given other groups more of a chance because each of the groups have really great girls in them and I would have been lucky to be a member of any of them. But I still think I would have pledged the group that I did.

hiller09 · #12 08-15-2011, 09:58 PM

I thank the lucky stars that I stuck to my guns freshman year after receiving a bid to a place I really didn't feel comfortable. I came from a tiny town and a tiny prep school full of nerdy kids and the place I received a bid was a little to "wild" to me and to this day, after getting to know some of the lovely girls better, I still think they are too wild for me! I also remember telling my mother that if I was too embarrassed to wear a sorority's letters for WHATEVER reason (and this came up from every end of the spectrum in my very stereotyped small town mind) that I had no place taking a spot from a girl that would be proud to call herself an XYZ.

I also thank my lucky stars I was so involved in community service already after freshman year that when I found out about GSS I realized it was the prefect match for me. I will always wonder what it would be like to be in a more "recognized" sorority but at the same time it wouldn't be home. I love my sisters and they love me.

Funny story about that, 4 of the girls in my Pi Chi group pledged with me. We had been friends and experienced similar recruitments, all got bids to places we really didn't feel right with and all ended up together in the end!

TriDeltaSallie · #13 07-27-2011, 11:45 PM

I wonder if women who go through informal recruitment or COB are more prone to wonder "what if"? Because they didn't visit every house during formal recruitment, once they are on the other side they realize they probably would have fit in and enjoyed other chapters as well.

33girl · #14 07-27-2011, 11:55 PM

Just because you go through informal rush doesn't mean you don't get to visit every chapter. It simply means you aren't COMPELLED to do so. If you choose to limit your options, that's your choice.

As far as women who join through COB without ever having gone through any other form of rush, or without knowing any other sorority's women, they are few and far between.

CougADPi · #15 08-19-2011, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

As far as women who join through COB without ever having gone through any other form of rush, or without knowing any other sorority's women, they are few and far between.

That was me. The only other house I knew about was AOPi and that was just because their house was on the bus route. Otherwise I went in completely blind. I often wish I had gone through recruitment but I am pretty sure the result would have been the same and I wouldn't have it any other way.