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[DrPhil]

My universities were 5-10 minutes from my parents' house. My family almost never saw me.

I was having a gooooooooooooooood time living in dorms (in undergrad) and in apartments (in grad school). Hanging out, roadtripping, being awaaaaaay from parents and family stuff. A goooooooooooooooooood time.

[Munchkin03]

At my undergrad, it was required to live on-campus, so the local kids all lived in the dorms. They didn't go home all that often. Of the ones I knew, most of them ended up spending their whole junior year abroad (as opposed to the semesters that most of us did).

I guess it's different in the case of a major university. I can't justify letting my kid have an off-campus apartment when they're going to the community college around the corner.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I guess it's different in the case of a major university. I can't justify letting my kid have an off-campus apartment when they're going to the community college around the corner.

Agreed!

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

My universities were 5-10 minutes from my parents' house. My family almost never saw me.

I was having a gooooooooooooooood time living in dorms (in undergrad) and in apartments (in grad school). Hanging out, roadtripping, being awaaaaaay from parents and family stuff. A goooooooooooooooooood time.

Yeah. My oldest step-son was a college freshman last year and we made him live in the dorms eventhough it was 5-10 minutes from our house. We never saw him either unless he was out of money, university break where the dorms/campus are closed, or needed an extension of his meal plan.

If he had stayed home he would have stayed here the entire time and gone to class, rather than meeting people and learning how to take care of himself/being responsible and doing his own thing.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

If he had stayed home he would have stayed here the entire time and gone to class, rather than meeting people and learning how to take care of himself/being responsible and doing his own thing.

This would probably have been me.

I went to school close-ish to my mom/stepdad (30 minutes), yet still did the dorm thing. Looking back, I don't think I would have been as involved at school or made as many friends (and certainly not gone Greek) if I commuted from their house.

Living away from mom and dad (whether you're 30 minutes away or 3,000 miles) is SO important.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

This would probably have been me.

I went to school close-ish to my mom/stepdad (30 minutes), yet still did the dorm thing. Looking back, I don't think I would have been as involved at school or made as many friends (and certainly not gone Greek) if I commuted from their house.

Living away from mom and dad is SO important.

This is why I did not go to LSU. My parents wouldn't have been able to butt out if I was in the same town. I always wanted to go to LSU, but it was more important to be 180 miles away.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

This is why I did not go to LSU. My parents wouldn't have been able to butt out if I was in the same town. I always wanted to go to LSU, but it was more important to be 180 miles away.

I needed 1,500 miles.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I went to school close-ish to my mom/stepdad (30 minutes), yet still did the dorm thing. Looking back, I don't think I would have been as involved at school or made as many friends (and certainly not gone Greek) if I commuted from their house.

Living away from mom and dad is SO important.

Cannot agree more. I went to school in midtown Atlanta, while my parents live in the south metro area (F'ville/PTC). The one summer I commuted was just ... not good. I learned the academic stuff, but there is so much more to college than just the academic stuff. You really need to be learning the whole package!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Living away from mom and dad (whether you're 30 minutes away or 3,000 miles) is SO important.

My mom's rule of thumb was that you should go to college close enough that you can get home when you really need to, but far enough way that you can't come home whenever you want to.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

My mom's rule of thumb was that you should go to college close enough that you can get home when you really need to, but far enough way that you can't come home whenever you want to.

Now it's so easy to get most places (maybe not cheap, but easy) that distance really isn't an issue anymore. I never felt like I couldn't get home if I *needed* to, and I rarely ever wanted to do so.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

See, I probably would have gone somewhere far away if I had the kind of parents who were going to be all in my business. My parents were the "we call once every 2 weeks or so to make sure you're alive" type. They were also the "we don't care if you stay local for school, but you need to leave the nest" type.

My parents were definitely going to be all in my business, so I got as far away as I could (literally). Even now, I think my father would have a heart attack if he didn't hear from me for 2 weeks.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Now it's so easy to get most places (maybe not cheap, but easy) that distance really isn't an issue anymore. I never felt like I couldn't get home if I *needed* to, and I rarely ever wanted to do so.

I feel old now. Thanks.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I feel old now. Thanks.

It's okay. I was only born a couple of years after the airlines were deregulated, so I do not know of this world where it once cost thousands of dollars to fly to SF from NYC!