Wedding etiquette

[33girl]

Re the whole B-list thing, a former coworker sent an email along the lines of this to a bunch of us at work A WEEK before the wedding.

Bill and I have not had the response from our friends and family that we had anticipated to attend our wedding. We realize this is short notice but would like for you to share our special day with us. The wedding is at _____ , and reception is at _____ . We hope to see you there.

I think it would have been a little less offensive if she had said "we obviously do not expect a gift from you." But the thing is...they were obviously doing this because they sank all this $$ into a wedding and their ROI was going to suck because no one wanted to come to it.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Re the whole B-list thing, a former coworker sent an email along the lines of this to a bunch of us at work A WEEK before the wedding.

Bill and I have not had the response from our friends and family that we had anticipated to attend our wedding. We realize this is short notice but would like for you to share our special day with us. The wedding is at _____ , and reception is at _____ . We hope to see you there.

I think it would have been a little less offensive if she had said "we obviously do not expect a gift from you." But the thing is...they were obviously doing this because they sank all this $$ into a wedding and their ROI was going to suck because no one wanted to come to it.

I got something like this a few years ago. I don't like the bride to begin with (don't know the groom but he's pretty trashy as well), and they did it because they were getting fewer attendees than they had guaranteed with the caterer. This couple also had a honeymoon registry.

The B-list doesn't bother me if it's done discreetly and done in enough time that it doesn't look like a B-list.