I have a stalker

[PeppyGPhiB]

My senior year of college I dated an older guy (I always dated older guys), just a couple months off and on before graduation. We went out maybe 10 times, it was nothing serious. He was nice, cute, but kinda goofy/off. When I graduated, I moved back to Seattle. On our last date we said goodbye, talk to you later, etc. and I thought that was it.

Well, every time I was online, he'd IM me....he was always online! It was always "I miss you," "I have feelings for you," etc. I just ignored those statements and would keep our IM exchanges to a few short responses, then I'd jump offline or make myself invisible. Then one day he IMd me with, "I'm coming to see you in Seattle." I made all kinds of excuses at first, but then a few days later when he told me that again and started talking about dates, I told him flatly, "No offense, but I'm not interested in seeing you. I don't see any long term potential for us." He got all sad on me, but said he understood. He kept IMing me, though, trying to make chit chat. My responses would be just one or two words at most, then I stopped responding. One day he IMd, as soon as I got online, "I'm moving to Seattle." I felt like I had to say something to that, so I asked him why. "I miss you" was his response, then he added, "If we don't work out, I can still find a job there." That freaked me out enough for me to change my email/IM username so that he couldn't contact me anymore (thankfully I hadn't given him my new cell phone number). I thought about asking the police if I should file any type of notice or complaint or something, just in case, but decided that was premature.

In your case, I think you should just block her from your Facebook, and stop any contact with her. If she shows up at your event, say hello and be cordial, and thank her for coming (act surprised that she would come all that way). Then move on to your other guests. Don't do anything to encourage her, but I wouldn't do anything to agitate her prior to that, either. Some people are just lonely - maybe that's her?