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We do adopted bigs also. My big graduated in the Spring of 2000 (i pledged in Fall 99).....My twin pretty much became my big because we were close but she felt that our big and her didn't really connect as much as we had. My big's twin was more my twin's big and so on. Its kind of confusing. Well now, I have also become an adopted big. One of our initiates from Fall 01 didn't connect with her big and her big is now an alumnae. So since I have lost most of my immediate family due to alumnae status (my twin, and two out of my three littles), I decided I would take her because we have a really strong friendship.
I think adopted bigs are a good thing....especially if someone does not feel a connection with their big. Sometimes when that happens, there might be a feeling of unwantedness and that is what pushes people away from their chapter. If they have that other person to rely on, then that decreases the chances of them moving farther away from the chapter.
Its a learning experience that i think everyone at one time will experience throughout their years in their chapter.
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