Boyfriend Hazing

[AGDee]

It could also be that she's hounding him so badly to share that he's shutting her out because he is simply not allowed to tell her anything. It's possible his personality has only changed with HER because she is making such an issue of this.

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by AGDee

It could also be that she's hounding him so badly to share that he's shutting her out because he is simply not allowed to tell her anything. It's possible his personality has only changed with HER because she is making such an issue of this.

I was thinking the same. In fact, I could totally see myself reacting the same to a prying partner.

Also, just because a guy has the mentality of "I went through it, so everyone else should too" doesn't mean he's turned violent. For all we know, "hazing" at that chapter could only consist of cleaning the house and only being able to use the back staircase until initiated.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

I was thinking the same. In fact, I could totally see myself reacting the same to a prying partner.

Also, just because a guy has the mentality of "I went through it, so everyone else should too" doesn't mean he's turned violent. For all we know, "hazing" at that chapter could only consist of cleaning the house and only being able to use the back staircase until initiated.

I had to work very hard to not be that prying partner, especially with my first college boyfriend who I know went through what I would consider to be some pretty extreme hazing (for our campus even). It upset me a lot but I realized I couldn't push or pry. I already knew way more than I was supposed to because they had traveled to another college in our state where one of my best friends happened to be. She knew my boyfriend because she'd met him at my prom and she saw him at the chapter house on her campus. She had seen things I shouldn't have known about and called me that night. I knew if I had pushed him about it though, he would have shut me out.

I had a hard time understanding why he put up with what he did. I pledged the next term and became really scared during the week before Initiation, convinced that something similar would happen to me. I had decided that there were certain lines I had to draw and if those lines were crossed, I would have to quit on the spot, regardless of how much I loved these women. Then... voila... no lines were crossed and everything was great

Then my second college boyfriend was pledging when we started dating. There were some REALLY extreme jokes about some of the things that they were going to have to do but they were so ridiculous that everybody knew they weren't really going to happen. Again though, during his "Hell Week", I just stepped aside and didn't push for any info. I don't think he went through anything like the first boyfriend did though. At least nobody ever had to go ER during their "Hell Week". It was a frequent occurrence with the first boyfriend's GLO which, to me, means they went way too far.