A Kappa's Girl. Advice please.

[Tre1911]

Originally Posted by Kevin

There won't be any DNA test unless someone contests the paternity of the child. If not, there'll be an acknowledgement of paternity to sign, and after that's done, there's probably a period of time which would have to pass, then it's a done deal.

Along with the birth of a child comes a hell of a lot of responsibility, not to mention child support if you don't happen to end up as the custodial parent.

It seems her monogamous relationship with your brother isn't going to work out. Right now it's you, eventually, it'll be someone else. You need to hire a lawyer as soon as that kid is born, do the DNA tests, etc., then step up and be a father if this child is yours. If the child is yours, be ready to figure out what sort of custodial time schedule you're ready to deal with, and budget for child support. If you Google your state's name and the words "child support calculator" you should be able to figure out about how much that'll be.

Once this kid is born, you're going to need legal advice. Depending on the state, child support can start when the kid is born, and if you don't become the acknowledged father right of the bat, they can go back and assess an arrearage against you. You do need to deal with this, and again, hire a lawyer.

Why would I need a lawyer? She said she thinks it might be his but she's not sure. She told me that it really didn't matter because he's happy about and I'm not, so she said she's going to choose him as the father regardless. So there won't be any blood tests.