Pregnant Sorority Member

[StarryNightASA]

One of my sisters at my chapter got pregnant last year in the fall and was about 8 months pregnant during recruitment in January. A lot of PNMs loved seeing her there because it just proved that we were all there for each other no matter what. This also happened to a girl in another chapter at my school and they handled it the same way.

I don't know what your national policy on the matter is, but if there is none, I would treat the girl like any other sister and let her make her own decision as to what to do about her membership. She may need her sisters more than ever.

[GreekGirley]

Originally Posted by StarryNightASA

A lot of PNMs loved seeing her there because it just proved that we were all there for each other no matter what. This also happened to a girl in another chapter at my school and they handled it the same way.

So the PNMs didn't attach a negative stigma to that situation? I'd be curious to know what was going through their minds. Where is your school located, geographically - and do your students consider themselves conservative or liberal? I think our schools may differ in makeup and overall philosophy....

[StarryNightASA]

Originally Posted by GreekGirley

So the PNMs didn't attach a negative stigma to that situation? I'd be curious to know what was going through their minds. Where is your school located, geographically - and do your students consider themselves conservative or liberal? I think our schools may differ in makeup and overall philosophy....

My school is located in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia which is super conservative and religious. It's a pretty small school so you pretty much know what's going on at all times.

[naraht]

Originally Posted by StarryNightASA

My school is located in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia which is super conservative and religious. It's a pretty small school so you pretty much know what's going on at all times.

Could be worse, could be at Regent.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by StarryNightASA

My school is located in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia which is super conservative and religious. It's a pretty small school so you pretty much know what's going on at all times.

Emphasis on the bolded. If the school/Greek system is small to begin with, the entire world probably knows the girl's pregnant immediately anyway and terminating her as an act of "so no one finds out and it doesn't hurt us in rush or our rep" would be pointless. A bigger school/system, that's a different kettle of fish.

[AXiD.in.pearls]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Emphasis on the bolded. If the school/Greek system is small to begin with, the entire world probably knows the girl's pregnant immediately anyway and terminating her as an act of "so no one finds out and it doesn't hurt us in rush or our rep" would be pointless. A bigger school/system, that's a different kettle of fish.

That's not necessarily true. I went to one of those bigger schools with a bigger system (we have 17 sororities) and a member from another chapter became pregnant and quietly stepped away to get ready to have her baby and settle into motherhood. yeah EVERY ONE in the greek system knew who it was.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AXiD.in.pearls

That's not necessarily true. I went to one of those bigger schools with a bigger system (we have 17 sororities) and a member from another chapter became pregnant and quietly stepped away to get ready to have her baby and settle into motherhood. yeah EVERY ONE in the greek system knew who it was.

So you purposely seek out a thread to continue the gossip spreading. How Panhellenic of you.

[AXiD.in.pearls]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

So you purposely seek out a thread to continue the gossip spreading. How Panhellenic of you.

No, i'm not she's from around our school so she actually went back to her chapter and was an executive member after she gave birth, i give her major props. Plus her kid is precious and she's an awesome mom.

I was just saying that just because you go to a big school doesnt mean people dont know. It jsut means that it gets out to more people

[LouisaMay]

Originally Posted by StarryNightASA

One of my sisters at my chapter got pregnant last year in the fall and was about 8 months pregnant during recruitment in January. A lot of PNMs loved seeing her there because it just proved that we were all there for each other no matter what. This also happened to a girl in another chapter at my school and they handled it the same way.

I don't know what your national policy on the matter is, but if there is none, I would treat the girl like any other sister and let her make her own decision as to what to do about her membership. She may need her sisters more than ever.

I'm proud that your chapter placed support of a sister and friend over concerns about whether she would "sell well" among PNMs.