Are Black Women Scaring Off Black Men

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

"You are what you attract." .

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

Semantics.

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I know I'm way out of my lane, it's just that I don't know if I totally agree with this. I do to some degree but, not 100%. I mean, if I understand your post correctly, there are some people with good character and morals who may attract someone who's the total opposite. I've attracted bad guys before but, that doesn't make me a bad person. That's just the physical part of attraction. I think the key to attracting what you want (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) is being/becoming what you want to attract, not so much "you are what you attract". If a guy wants a together woman, then he needs to be a together man and vice versa. I just think that if you happen to attract someone who isn't on your level, or has bad character, that doesn't make you what they are. This isn't directed to you, but in general, --perhaps that someone who would be exciting to you would not be excited by you because, maybe you aren't doing anything for yourself or you're not walking in the same direction that person is walking.

Like Preciousjeni said, Semantics. We are saying the same thing, I just used the term I've always heard.