The Rules According to a Fraternity "Cocksman"

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Heck--they're exhibiting sexual inhibition, freedom and power, if nothing else. Or at least that's one possible interpretation.

That's exactly how some feminists view it. There are different waves of feminism, and feminists with different views, for a reason.

That goes with the notion that there isn't one way that women should act. If some women want to act wild at parties and participate in themes that others deem degrading, those women are not automatically lacking self-esteem or anti-feminist, especially if they consider themselves knowledgeable and willing participants of a consenting age.

Did I and would I ever attend those parties? No, I think they're stupid for a number of reasons. But, I do plenty of other things that some women and men consider non-womanly/non-feminine and some feminists consider non-feminist.

[33girl]

I will say that the one time I went to a "pimps and hos" or anything slightly related mixer (I forget exactly what we called it), it was with a fraternity we were all very familiar and comfy with. I'm pretty sure no one would have done it with a group we were unsure of or didn't know well. And when I look back on it...we really weren't wearing any less than we usually did (maybe we piled on the makeup a bit) or behaving any differently.

The time I think this is v.v. bad is when a sorority or fraternity suggests this theme with a group that they feel they were "lucky" to get a mixer with...that is above them in the social pecking order...so they can have somewhat of an excuse for behaving, well, like pimps and/or hos.