Clean Facebook vs. Private Facebook

[AnchorAlumna]

I hate private - totally private - profiles.
It's like when I get a friend request from somebody I don't recognize right away. How does this person know me? Maybe that's her married name? But all the info is locked up so I no way to determine whether or not I know them.

I need a little info to make sure that's the person I'm looking for. A picture, college, high school and some other details to make sure I'm looking at the right Jenn Smith. At the very least!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

I hate private - totally private - profiles.
It's like when I get a friend request from somebody I don't recognize right away. How does this person know me? Maybe that's her married name? But all the info is locked up so I no way to determine whether or not I know them.

I need a little info to make sure that's the person I'm looking for. A picture, college, high school and some other details to make sure I'm looking at the right Jenn Smith. At the very least!

Be sure you have your settings to allow messages from people who aren't on your friends list. I found that having that security setting up means that I can't get the message along with the friend request telling me who they are.

ETA: And I just realized my settings are STILL set that way.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

I hate private - totally private - profiles.
It's like when I get a friend request from somebody I don't recognize right away. How does this person know me? Maybe that's her married name? But all the info is locked up so I no way to determine whether or not I know them.

I need a little info to make sure that's the person I'm looking for. A picture, college, high school and some other details to make sure I'm looking at the right Jenn Smith. At the very least!

Message them and ask them. There are myriad reasons people may have an unfamiliar name on their profile (I mentioned teachers earlier) and it's kind of rude to expect them to risk their privacy just so you can figure it out without stepping out and asking.

To the OP: Make everything private. "Get to know you a lot better" really means "try to find out if she's a slut/lush/geek etc." It's NOT a positive thing, however they may try to spin it.