Disaffiliating

[ebdelt]

I can understand where you are coming from and I think you raise some valid arguments. Are you involved at all within the fraternity? Maybe you could try to get on the fraternity's brotherhood committee and try to help some plan some brother bonding activities. Or maybe try to be on the rush committee to help recruit more guys that you think hold values similar to your own. It's cheesy...but be the change you wish to see.

This is just me personally, but I usually see little benefit to just quitting. Perhaps there are more people in the fraternity that feel the way you do and just don't say anything. Groupthink is a dangerous culprit. I think the more you force yourself to get involved and meet more people on a personal level, the better is. I'm assuming you are a freshman as well. Living in the house as a sophomore almost always makes things better because then you really get to know everyone. I know I wasn't as close to my pledge class, maybe just a particular few, until I lived in the house. That's when it really brought us all together.

If you want, PM me and I'd be happy to give you some more advice.

[excelblue]

Alright, so based on what you posted, it seems like you aren't satisfied with the dynamics of your chapter, but you haven't said anything about the larger picture, such as other chapters and alumni.

Main thing I want to ask is: does your ritual mean anything to you? If so, do your brothers live up to the ritual? If not, do you think you can possibly get them to live up to it?

I personally think it's the bigger picture that's at stake here: if simply not feeling it in the chapter but everyone still has some (very) remote ties that you share, you can probably do something to fix up the bonds. Maybe you guys just aren't doing philanthropy events or brotherhood bonding events because nobody did them, even though all of your brothers would have liked them.

Until you've talked to all of your brothers about this and still feel that the problems are just beyond all hopes of repair, sit on it and see what you can do to make your chapter a better fit for you. After all, why did they bid and initiate you in the first place?