BabyziIIa--AMEN!
I, too, am non-greek (formerly anti-greek)... dating a greek man. I actually met him on the internet and when I found out he was greek, I was wary, but thought he was fun to talk to (didn't know many greek guys well in person, afterall). I then found out that he went to high school with a friend of mine, so I took him more seriously (it's easy to not take 'net acquaintances as seriously as real ppl sometimes, i think). we ended up becoming friends and on the verge of more-than-friends, so then we met in person and hit it off.
I have to admit to being nervous about the fraternity thing--it's a different lifestyle than one I was used to being around, but the guys really grew on me and instead of despising stereotypical greek immaturity, I started thinking of them as "adorably crude," if that's at all possible *lol* They aren't bad guys at all, but there are some antics that I have to laugh at or I'll get irritated about them (I won't go into detail here *L*)
But I should really clarify that I totally LOVE my greek guy--he is the sweetest most loyal guy I have ever met and after toughing out the long distance relationship for over a year, we're now engaged.
It really helps just to remember that guys will be guys will be guys and that they all have groups they associate with, whether they are marked by greek letters or not. I think fraternities do instill some important values in the long run, even though they take a lot of crap from surface reputation.
I don't know that I have any greek vs. non-greek stories, but I will say that it is sort of neat how greek guys are a PART of something, and sometimes non-greeks aren't. so for anybody, when you date the greeks, you have to deal with the rest of the guys in some way or another--thus making YOU a part of it, too. (I have always joked about how I haven't pledged a sorority b/c I like the guys more than I like girls *L*)
Oh well... there was my little (or long!) story
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