Baby Shower Menu Suggestions Needed!

[Shellfish]

Is it considered bad form to follow up the non-RSVPs with a phone call? Because I would do that first, saying that you hadn't heard from them and need to know for planning purposes. I would hope the message would get through.

[KD4Me]

Originally Posted by Shellfish

Is it considered bad form to follow up the non-RSVPs with a phone call? Because I would do that first, saying that you hadn't heard from them and need to know for planning purposes. I would hope the message would get through.

I'm not sure about the etiquette, but I wouldn't mind doing this, except that I don't know most of the guests, so I don't have their phone numbers. At this point, I wouldn't want to ask my friend for the numbers because I figure that she'd have to track many of them down (many of the guests are relatives, friends of the mothers, etc.) and it would be a hassle. Also, by the time she got them to me it would probably be too late to really follow up, anyway.

I am so bad about rsvp'ing promptly, although I do rsvp (earlier than this)! I vow to be more prompt about it in the future! Never thought about the stress that it can cause to a hostess trying to figure out how many plates/forks/foods that she needs.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by Shellfish

Is it considered bad form to follow up the non-RSVPs with a phone call? Because I would do that first, saying that you hadn't heard from them and need to know for planning purposes. I would hope the message would get through.

While it's a bit embarrassing (and a pain in the patoot), it's also the one time you can purposefully tell someone that they're rude without saying it.

Give yourself a break, if you can, and buy the crudites & fruit platters. You don't want to play Soup Nazi and say, "No eggs or muffins for you!" The non-responders are the ones being rude - don't stoop to their level.