Is this normal...?

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Originally Posted by rxavier

I'm continuing to reach out to my PC but it's becoming *overwhelming* to keep up with everyone as they're already planning on spending vacations together, studying together, making plans for lunch, etc. It takes me longer to get to that place and I'm just worried that it'll be too late for me once I finally come out of my shell.

Not everyone is a "make friends instantly person." Some people take longer.

Also, keep in mind that yes, some girls will seem to become friends instantly, but those friendships can and will change over time in the sorority. Girls that you aren't close with or maybe don't even KNOW now will be your best friends by graduation. Also, girls who are BFFs now, won't be. A lot can change in 4 years and you can't say that you "don't fit in" in three days.

Everyone is not best friends with their Bid Day Buddy. It's okay if you're not. There are even people who end up not being best friends with their Big Sister. That's ok too.

In addition, not everyone's best friends are in their own pledge class. You'll get to know people who are older/younger than you are. Some of my best friends in my chapter were in my Big's class and I am very good friends with some women in my Little Sister's class as well.

You will also start to make friends with the women you live-in with. My very best friend in the sorority was a girl I didn't know well at all until we lived-in together.

So, don't panic. Just participate and be proactive in making friends. Go out to dinner. Go to more than just the required events. Eventually, you will start to build relationships.