Going through recruitment, encouragement?

[DGTess]

I know it's hard to understand when you hear things over and over, but there is no such thing as a "bottom" chapter if it's the place that provides you friendship and sisterhood.

There may well be chapters that are not good fits for you. But only you and they can know that. The girls in the rush groups can't possibly know you as well as you do, nor than they know the chapters as well as the women who are making membership selection decisions.

If a chapter fits you, it will be be your place, no matter where someone else, or everyone else, ranks it.

[als463]

I'll be honest and say that, as an Alumna, when I meet a woman who is Greek, the first thing I think is, "Cool. She must have done some philanthropy and learned how to get along with other people. She's probably a team-player!" Never do I think, "Oh wow, she is part of the (ugly, fat, smart, stupid, skinny, popular, etc.) house."

Once you become an Alumna, people don't even care whether or not your chapter was a "top-tier" chapter or not. In fact, I find it funny that these websites exist because if you check out other schools (not that I am advocating even going on this stupid site) you'll see that tiers change from school to school. XYZ may be #1 at Small School USA but, that same organization may be the "fat girl" sorority at Big Campus USA. Tiers change from chapter-to-chapter, school-to-school and year-to-year.

Your sorority membership is what you make of it. If you end up joining what your friends perceived to be the "lower-tier" house on campus, you may end up helping that chapter thrive and grow. You may even get the opportunity to hold an office position and turn things around. I had some friends in college who received bids to the "top-tier" chapters and ended up quitting. I then had friends who received bids to the "bottomr-tier" chapters and turned those bids down-only to complain that they wish they would have given Greek life a chance, regardless of the "rank" of the sorority for which they received a bid. If you don't get beyond the ranking of the sorority, you may miss out on something VERY VALUABLE...sisterhood!