To pledge or not to pledge a sorority?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by SweetGirl20

So i’m currently a interest for a latin sorority. I have found out certain things that have pushed me away from wanting to pledge, like that they haze and make the girls do certain things which i’m not with. I really want to be part of the sorority tho but i feel like how can you possibly call girls that hit you in your face and haze you sisters. I wish that the old way of pledging was still around.*

I still want to do it, but i feel like i’m very undeceive at this point. I have a lot of negative and positive things about the sorority. but i feel that when being an interest one shouldn’t get treated as interest but as proper human beings. In my case i get treated as an interest.*

I just wanted advice because i want to make the right choice. and although i really want to be part of this i’m afraid of making the wrong decision because the girls in it seem so fake to me at times, like they put up a front based on their sorority. like come on not everything about your sorority is good.

I’m also upset because my friend was an interest with me and she stopped being an interest because of the way the girls were treating her. I really wanted her to do it with me if i end up pledging, but i guess i cant count with her. I really understand her reason and feel like maybe i should stop too?*

my other reason for not wanting to stop is that i feel like i have been an interest for a while, and seeing the other girls get put online would upset me. I’ll probably feel like damn i could have been on that line too. Truth is i can see me part of the sorority, but i feel hesitant in going through the process and being treated like crap.

QFP

1. If you're using the terminology that you're using on purpose, you've kind of given away the sorority.

2. If not, how are you being hazed as an interest? Or are you basing this on hearsay?

3. Maybe you're just confused because you're not in the system, but if you aren't a member and you aspire to be on, then you ARE an interest and will be treated as one. Does that mean you should get hazed? No. But again, I'm not sure how they're hazing you as an interest.

FYI -- No one here can make the decision for you.

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

1. If you're using the terminology that you're using on purpose, you've kind of given away the sorority.

As in, even I knew. Oy.

[SweetGirl20]

I don't mean this in a bad way. What I mean is that every sorority has positive and negative things in them. And I'm not giving up the sorority. I actually like the sorority but I don't really know if it's for me. And I really like the alumnaes in it but the actual girls I don't know if they're frank with me and if they actually want me. That's what I was referring too, which is why I said that they seem fake to me at times. Now I don't know if their supposed to do that but I feel really bad because I don't know what to do, maybe I'm wasting my time. I don't know if you guys understand me but I'm very confused. I think about this everyday because I want to make the right choice. Or maybe I should just focus with school? I would appreciate someone to be frank with me and just give me advice. Thanx

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by SweetGirl20

I don't mean this in a bad way. What I mean is that every sorority has positive and negative things in them. And I'm not giving up the sorority. I actually like the sorority but I don't really know if it's for me. And I really like the alumnaes in it but the actual girls I don't know if they're frank with me and if they actually want me. That's what I was referring too, which is why I said that they seem fake to me at times. Now I don't know if their supposed to do that but I feel really bad because I don't know what to do, maybe I'm wasting my time. I don't know if you guys understand me but I'm very confused. I think about this everyday because I want to make the right choice. Or maybe I should just focus with school? I would appreciate someone to be frank with me and just give me advice. Thanx

This post is very confusing.

The sorority is not going to change for you. I'm not sure what you're needing our help with.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by SweetGirl20

I don't mean this in a bad way. What I mean is that every sorority has positive and negative things in them. And I'm not giving up the sorority. I actually like the sorority but I don't really know if it's for me. And I really like the alumnaes in it but the actual girls I don't know if they're frank with me and if they actually want me. That's what I was referring too, which is why I said that they seem fake to me at times. Now I don't know if their supposed to do that but I feel really bad because I don't know what to do, maybe I'm wasting my time. I don't know if you guys understand me but I'm very confused. I think about this everyday because I want to make the right choice. Or maybe I should just focus with school? I would appreciate someone to be frank with me and just give me advice. Thanx

Three words: play your position.

You're interested in them. You're required to show it. They arent mandated to shower you with attention in the same regard.

The only correct choice is the one you can live with, As mentioned, none of us have direct answers for you. Yes, your posts are confusing but we've been there in some way, whether it becomes a great choice in the end or something you regret. The time you're spending worrying and wondering if you or if you shouldn't could be the difference between whether they even choose you for membership.

Do you want us to be frank or give you the answer? The former we've done, the latter we won't. If you want it, go for it. You should be more concerned if THEY want YOU.