I just want to point out that, as a PNM, you don't actually know if you have a rec to a chapter. Chapters do solicit recs, and alumnae do write recs unprompted. It's not the norm, but it happens.
this.
and iugreekgirl, maybe your legacy chapter could tell that you were just not that into them. glad you found the right home for you!
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