First glance/sight/blind date and/or internet turn offs

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

LOL

I knew Sen and DS2 would be in here.

Now waiting for DS1...

I'm late but...ditto to what they said.



So, let me chime in by saying....


WEAVES


and it's funny because I have met some women over the years who said that they don't like dredds but yet and still they got that yucky yaki glued to their scalps.

So hey...you do you.

And as far as "unhygienic"...it's HAIR...it has to be washed just like any other hair...what's even more unhygienic is watching the weavalong sistas that haven't done anything to their heads in about a month and if you brush their scalp the wrong way it's like watching a sandstorm in their scalp.

So i have to take a slight offense to having locs being called unhygienic

[LikeASista]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

So i have to take a slight offense to having locs being called unhygienic

Sorry about that ... Apparently, I used the wrong term, but I've met alot of people with them, and I just don't find them attractive at all. One reason for that is because it seems like it's difficult for the hair follicles to really breathe in that, ... uh, ... well, ... in that condition. Maybe I'm just too old school, but I don't particularly like them. And that's just me, ... so don't take offense. (I didn't get offended by the "overweight" comment somebody made earlier ... it's their personal preference, and they don't have to make apologies for it.)

I feel you about the weaves, though. LMAO!! I don't wear weaves for the same reason, ... it seems that it would be difficult to really penetrate the scalp for a good washing (I assume, at least). Some people wear weave that is glued, others wear weave that is sewn in. Either way, I would imagine it would be difficult. But that's just me ...

[Lasonja]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Ugly feet.

Lol PrettyBoy, I'm talking about when you first see her, what is the first thing you notice that would turn you off? If she's wearing shoes that cover her entire foot, you wouldn't be able to know what her feet look like.

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Lmao!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Depending on the shoe, I can tell. If it's an old shoe, (mainly heels) I can tell because the toes will slightly protrude through the shoe, appearing as bumps. That's usually a sign of ugly toes/wide, flat feet..and/or a high possibility of corn cushions--can't mess with that. If it's a running shoe, or a new shoe, then you're right, I can't tell. But, in your OP, you said that from the start there's some kind of physical attraction. So, with that, if I like her, and she's someone I'm physically attracted to, and someone I could see myself as friends with first, then I would hang out with her until she eventually takes off her shoes, which always happens after a few dates. If her feet are jacked, then I just gained a friend. If she has pretty feet, then we can move to the next level.

All I can do is boggle at the idea of diagnosing someone's feet through their shoes...

And being opposed to flat feet? They're just feet O.o

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

All I can do is boggle at the idea of diagnosing someone's feet through their shoes...

And being opposed to flat feet? They're just feet O.o

LOL. What he said about toes pertruding through the shoe is not necessarily accurate because it could just be horrible shoes. But it can also be a sign of Paris Hilton feet--long feet and long toes. Not cute. You can definitely see someone's feet through open toed and peep toes shoes, and from the top of women's feet and heels. I can see men's feet during the warmer months when they wear flip flops or man sandals. I love seeing a man who is well-kept because even when I don't paint my toe nails, I don't wear foot revealing shoes if my feet are ashy or anything of the sort.

I disagree that they're just feet. Feet shape posture and walking. A flat foot can make some basic things more difficult/awkward and even painful particularly for women as compared to men. Having a jacked up arch and jacked up toes can do something to you. For instance, women who wear stilettos everyday can end up messing up their toes and feet as well as their posture. I know women who had to get surgery to remove corns and fix their toes and the same can happen to people who wear flip flops (or other flat shoes without a cushion) all the time. That's what happened to Tyra Banks.

None of this is the same as having rough feet that can be fixed with a pedicure and some lotion. LOL.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL. What he said about toes pertruding through the shoe is not necessarily accurate because it could just be horrible shoes. But it can also be a sign of Paris Hilton feet--long feet and long toes. Not cute. You can definitely see someone's feet through open toed and peep toes shoes, and from the top of women's feet and heels. I can see men's feet during the warmer months when they wear flip flops or man sandals. I love seeing a man who is well-kept because even when I don't paint my toe nails, I don't wear foot revealing shoes if my feet are ashy or anything of the sort.

I disagree that they're just feet. Feet shape posture and walking. A flat foot can make some basic things more difficult/awkward and even painful particularly for women as compared to men. Having a jacked up arch and jacked up toes can do something to you. For instance, women who wear stilettos everyday can end up messing up their toes and feet as well as their posture. I know women who had to get surgery to remove corns and fix their toes and the same can happen to people who wear flip flops (or other flat shoes without a cushion) all the time. That's what happened to Tyra Banks.

None of this is the same as having rough feet that can be fixed with a pedicure and some lotion. LOL.

This may just be an example of Your Kink Is Not My Kink (and by You I mean PB) but while flat feet certainly can cause posture issues and cause other pain they're also not typically considered strikingly unattractive the way other podiatry issues may be. And he was talking about looking at feet through shoes. It's possible that it's just that my turn off is guys staring at my feet long enough to try and imagine every single callous...

But then, YKINMK

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

But then, YKINMK

NaNoWriMo is affecting me in ways I never imagined. I'm having tremendous fun making up things YKINMK could stand for.

Your Kevlar Is Not Mom's Kevlar
Yes, Koala Intercourse Never Makes Kangaroos
You Know It's Not Mortal Kombat
Yo, Keep It Near My Knees
You're Kinky In Nevada. Mmm-Kay?

I was going to try to post something to stay on topic, but honestly, I had to look again to see what the topic is. And that distracted me from my YKINMK project. So screw it. I'm ok with having hijacked this thread. Carry on.

[Lasonja]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Depending on the shoe, I can tell. If it's an old shoe, (mainly heels) I can tell because the toes will slightly protrude through the shoe, appearing as bumps. That's usually a sign of ugly toes/wide, flat feet..and/or a high possibility of corn cushions--can't mess with that. If it's a running shoe, or a new shoe, then you're right, I can't tell. But, in your OP, you said that from the start there's some kind of physical attraction. So, with that, if I like her, and she's someone I'm physically attracted to, and someone I could see myself as friends with first, then I would hang out with her until she eventually takes off her shoes, which always happens after a few dates. If her feet are jacked, then I just gained a friend. If she has pretty feet, then we can move to the next level.

Most of the time, I can tell, though.
i.e.-----> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjS5zdsMmaM

Everyone has their own physical likes and dislikes, not everyone is going to be on the same page with that. This is just mine. Folks who are offended or think it's somewhat shallow, then okay, I'm sorry you read my post.

rotflmao!! Y'all, I am done, done, done, done. Lol! PrettyBoy, most men like breasts and butts. Black men especially are into that butt. Are you sure you're a black man? Feet? I'm just making sure, because I read one of your posts where you said you weren't into butts. Just checkin' Lol! I think if a man told me he was into my feet, and not my butt, I don't know how I would take that. What did your significant other say when you told her you were into her feet? I gotta hear this. Lol.

[33girl]

Everyone who's bitching about bad teeth - what do you consider "bad"? There are plenty of people out there who have healthy teeth but they don't happen to be perfectly straight or glow in the dark white.

My internet turnoff is bad spelling and grammar. I have so little to go on, if my first impression of you is that you never got past 1st grade in those areas, I don't care how hot you are, I won't look any further.

Real life turnoff? I really can't say. Things that work like crazy for one person don't work for another.

[honeychile]

The first thing I notice about anyone is the mouth. Not just the teeth, but the whole mouth area, smiling, laughing, sneering, or drooling. If I had to see a line-up from a crime, I could do it by the teeth. Drool is completley out. There is a wonderful, funny, well-traveled, well-spoken, intelligent doctor who has a crush on me, but I can't get past the drool.

The other part is the confidence demeanor. It's hard to notice, but if they can laugh at themselves or treat a woman as more than a support system for boobs & other goodies, that's a huge plus.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Everyone who's bitching about bad teeth - what do you consider "bad"? There are plenty of people out there who have healthy teeth but they don't happen to be perfectly straight or glow in the dark white.

My internet turnoff is bad spelling and grammar. I have so little to go on, if my first impression of you is that you never got past 1st grade in those areas, I don't care how hot you are, I won't look any further.

Real life turnoff? I really can't say. Things that work like crazy for one person don't work for another.

Bad teeth is on my list, but personally I'm more worried about clean teeth than straight ones. No lie, it helps to have a beautiful set of chompers, but not everyone got braces as a kid for whatever reason. And blindingly white teeth creep me out. I have to use whitening strips due to smoking and a diet coke addiction, but I only take off the stains...I don't change the color. And that's all I'm looking for with a dude. Basic hygiene.

That being said, I did date a guy from England that lived up to the teeth stereotype...he was a very clean guy, mouth included, but they were horribly crooked, and smoke stained. It wasn't an actual turn off, but it wasn't exactly my favorite part of him, either.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Come on now, y'all.

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

all of you with those nasty teeth pics can go to hell

*never re-entering this thread*

lol lol
Hilarious!

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by LikeASista

Sorry about that ... Apparently, I used the wrong term, but I've met alot of people with them, and I just don't find them attractive at all. One reason for that is because it seems like it's difficult for the hair follicles to really breathe in that, ... uh, ... well, ... in that condition. Maybe I'm just too old school, but I don't particularly like them. And that's just me, ... so don't take offense. (I didn't get offended by the "overweight" comment somebody made earlier ... it's their personal preference, and they don't have to make apologies for it.)

I feel you about the weaves, though. LMAO!! I don't wear weaves for the same reason, ... it seems that it would be difficult to really penetrate the scalp for a good washing (I assume, at least). Some people wear weave that is glued, others wear weave that is sewn in. Either way, I would imagine it would be difficult. But that's just me ...

Well, locs breathe quite well in its "condition", as you would call it. Again, it's just HAIR. Now saying it's unattractive is a far cry from saying it's not clean especially when basing it on an opinion.

If I an get paid for the amount of times people who asked me how do I wash my hair, I would be RICH...my usual reply is "how do you wash yours?"

And no...it's not difficult to penetrate at all and speaking for myself, I deep scrub my scalp at least twice before I even think about drying it. My wife is about the same...but it does take a bit longer to dry especially in the winter time. The best part of washing, especially on weekends during the summer if I am going to be out and about, is to wash it early in the morning with a peppermint shampoo and let it air dry.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

it's just HAIR.

Right. I think we know she didn't mean any harm by it. She corrected herself and apologized.

Y'all are ripping her a new one lol

[BluPhire]

Originally Posted by LikeASista

Sorry about that ... Apparently, I used the wrong term, but I've met alot of people with them, and I just don't find them attractive at all. One reason for that is because it seems like it's difficult for the hair follicles to really breathe in that, ... uh, ... well, ... in that condition. Maybe I'm just too old school, but I don't particularly like them. And that's just me, ... so don't take offense. (I didn't get offended by the "overweight" comment somebody made earlier ... it's their personal preference, and they don't have to make apologies for it.)

I feel you about the weaves, though. LMAO!! I don't wear weaves for the same reason, ... it seems that it would be difficult to really penetrate the scalp for a good washing (I assume, at least). Some people wear weave that is glued, others wear weave that is sewn in. Either way, I would imagine it would be difficult. But that's just me ...

Well I'll defend you.

My wife is a contradiction. She loves her locs but doesn't want me to have any. LOL

It's just you having to get pass your personal opinion to truly understand, but they are your personal opinion, and you should not feel bad that as you stated, to you it looks unkept.