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Originally Posted by M.I.A
That's not the type of reputation I'm talking about, actually. It's more related to extracurricular activities, if you catch my drift. And I HAVE spent time with these girls. I'm not asking these questions or making these comments based on accusations, assumptions, or rumors. To put it bluntly, the reputation they have suits the girls in the chapter that I've met. I'm sure not every girl is like that, obviously, but it's a legitimate concern.
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It sounds like what you're dancing around is that the chapter on your new campus has a party reputation. If that goes against your values or just isn't something you're interested in, then your concerns are valid. However, I'm a youth-group leader who has never been drunk in her life and just got initiated into the "party chapter" on campus. I couldn't be happier or love my sisters any more, despite almost dropping out of rush rather than be a member of this group. Are there girls in my sorority who fit the stereotype? Of course, we're in college. If I had been in your situation and hung out with these few girls, I would have gotten the impression that the stereotype was right. However, most stereotypes (depending on how old the group is, of course) are earned years ago. The girls in my sorority are the most loving women I have the privilege of knowing and yet I would have been shocked and dismayed a year ago (or even at the beginning of rush this year!) to know I would one day call them my sisters. And I don't feel left out because of my beliefs; I have found tons of girls just like me in my chapter, despite my campus not having the hugest Greek life (quota was 20 this year). Another thing: a party reputation isn't the worst to have, because it's the easiest to debunk. A chapter known for being snobby can be nice all they want, people will just think they're being fake. A member of the chapter known as the partiers just has to conduct herself in a respectable fashion and people will see their assumptions are wrong.
Bottom line: if a party reputation is what you're worried about, your fears may be unfounded. I understand your apprehension, and maybe the best thing would be to rush again. However, if you find yourself drawn to these girls during recruitment, don't be put off solely by reputation or your experiences with the few girls you met. There are girls in each chapter on my campus that I don't mesh with, and girls in each chapter I adore.
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