Dropped as a Pledge

[Coolguy]

Originally Posted by ebdelt

. If this story about you and a girl at the party really occurred, I can imagine the scenario, if you crossed some boundaries. Was it really just dancing and making out? Did you try to force yourself on her or be disrespectful/sleazy toward her?

Yeah that was the case. I asked her to go upstairs, but she said no and I didn't push it any further. She then dialed her number into my cell phone after I said that she shouldn't because she was way drunk (after I realized this girl was shitfaced). As far as representing the fraternity in a positive light, I don't know what their standards are. A pledge was charged with aggravated assault and battery, sent to jail, and it's seen as something hilarious.

Odd thing is that the Pledge ED said I can still party and hang with them whenever I wanted (excluding exchanges/formals). Maybe he's just being nice. It is devastating, but at least I can put my focus into other things.

[33girl]

When this other pledge was charged, was it anything to do with a girl?

You obviously crossed a line somewhere and while they like you alright, at this juncture they just don't want you wearing your letters. Also, they may have had a problem like this in the past and are being extra cautious.

[Coolguy]

Originally Posted by 33girl

When this other pledge was charged, was it anything to do with a girl?

You obviously crossed a line somewhere and while they like you alright, at this juncture they just don't want you wearing your letters. Also, they may have had a problem like this in the past and are being extra cautious.

He was charged two days ago and I suppose it involved a girl. He was chasing some down in his underwear. I was there the entire time and tried to get him back into his dorm room. It was my intervention of holding him down that avoided him from being an a real altercation with the RSO in our building. The funny thing is that this guy is a good buddy of mine since we live close to each other.

As far as rushing another fraternity I'm undecided. I really like these guys and I've accepted the fact that they probably won't take me in again, which sucks. Then again, I did feel a bit like an outsider during the pledge period. I felt more at home with my fellow pledges than with the actives. Thanks for the help everyone. I'll use this experience to better myself and maybe this is a blessing in disguise. Perhaps I'm not ready for a fraternity at this point.

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by Coolguy

Yeah that was the case. I asked her to go upstairs, but she said no and I didn't push it any further. She then dialed her number into my cell phone after I said that she shouldn't because she was way drunk (after I realized this girl was shitfaced). As far as representing the fraternity in a positive light, I don't know what their standards are. A pledge was charged with aggravated assault and battery, sent to jail, and it's seen as something hilarious.

Odd thing is that the Pledge ED said I can still party and hang with them whenever I wanted (excluding exchanges/formals). Maybe he's just being nice. It is devastating, but at least I can put my focus into other things.

The decision to kick someone out isn't usually taken lightly. The chapter probably discussed the entire situation. No one knows what happened that night except you and the girl. She isn't here to tell her side of the story here, so who knows what actually happened. Plus you were both drunk. If the girl felt threatened by you, I would definitely apologize to her, just for your own sake.

If everything happened the exact way you said it happened, I find it pretty hard to believe you would get kicked out for not being outgoing (though to go to mixers/parties and get wasted and make out with a girl on some levels is being outgoing) and getting rejected by a drunk girl. Did you go to fraternity events? Were you hanging out with the brothers? Were you meeting all the education standards? Did you actually fit in with the guys?

I'm going to go with they're just being nice about hanging out with you.

I admit that I've told people, who we didn't extend bids to, that we would still hang out and I have no idea how they didn't get a bid. When in reality, the guy was a huge asshole and I had no plans on ever hanging out with him again because I just didn't want to deal with the drama that would inevitably occur.