lady_chem's Disappointing Recruitment

[KSUViolet06]

Some advice:

I feel as though it is perpetuated that PNMs will instantly feel "warm fuzzies" about a chapter IMMEDIATELY when they accept a bid.

This is NOT the case for everyone.

As with ANY other relationship in life, you will not feel instantly bonded with like 100+ people right away. Heck, you may even question your decision a few times.

That's okay. You aren't going to immediately be in love with your 2nd or 3rd choice.

It takes TIME to "feel at home."

It doesn't always happen the MOMENT you accept your bid.

For some, it takes going to a few events and finding sisters that you have something in common with. Sometimes, it's meeting your Big sis. Sometimes, it takes getting initiated to feel "at home."

So don't panic should you find yourself not immediately smitten with the chapter you got a bid from.

For some, it takes getting to know people and finding out what the chapter is all about before they feel "at home." And there's nothing wrong with that.

Just like "feeling at home" with your new chapter takes time, it also TAKES EFFORT.

You likely are NOT going to become BFFs with every single girl in your chapter overnight.

You also are not going to bond with your new sorority sisters by just sitting back and expecting them to make all the effort to get to know you.

Just like other relationships, friendships within a sorority take time and effort.

You are not going to "feel at home" or "bond with anyone" by sitting back and sulking about being in your 2nd or 3rd choice.

If you really want to feel at home, you have to:

Get to know members
Attend events
Hang out
Have fun
Get involved.

So yes, you can be happy in your 2nd choice, it just takes time and effort on your part.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Some advice:

I feel as though it is perpetuated that PNMs will instantly feel "warm fuzzies" about a chapter IMMEDIATELY when they accept a bid.

This is NOT the case for everyone.

As with ANY other relationship in life, you will not feel instantly bonded with like 100+ people right away. Heck, you may even question your decision a few times.

That's okay. You aren't going to immediately be in love with your 2nd or 3rd choice.

It takes TIME to "feel at home."

It doesn't always happen the MOMENT you accept your bid.

For some, it takes going to a few events and finding sisters that you have something in common with. Sometimes, it's meeting your Big sis. Sometimes, it takes getting initiated to feel "at home."

So don't panic should you find yourself not immediately smitten with the chapter you got a bid from.

For some, it takes getting to know people and finding out what the chapter is all about before they feel "at home." And there's nothing wrong with that.

Just like "feeling at home" with your new chapter takes time, it also TAKES EFFORT.

You likely are NOT going to become BFFs with every single girl in your chapter overnight.

You also are not going to bond with your new sorority sisters by just sitting back and expecting them to make all the effort to get to know you.

Just like other relationships, friendships within a sorority take time and effort.

You are not going to "feel at home" or "bond with anyone" by sitting back and sulking about being in your 2nd or 3rd choice.

If you really want to feel at home, you have to:

Get to know members
Attend events
Hang out
Have fun
Get involved.

So yes, you can be happy in your 2nd choice, it just takes time and effort on your part.

This. At a school as small as yours, you simply are not going to be able to get another chance to be Greek. The women in the other organizations knew you weren't the best fit for them and nothing is going to change that. Take this opportunity to try and make a sincere effort to make it work with the group that did think enough of you to give you a bid. If it still doesn't work for you, you can walk away with a clear conscience knowing that you gave it your best shot.

By the way, we all do cheesy things as Greeks. It's not like we don't recognize them for what they are, but sometimes you have to embrace the corniness.

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

If you really want to feel at home, you have to:

Get to know members
Attend events
Hang out
Have fun
Get involved.

So yes, you can be happy in your 2nd choice, it just takes time and effort on your part.

Exactly. Take some time to get involved and get to know the women in your new sorority. How can you know it's not right for you if you don't give them, or yourself, a chance? There might be a lot more there than meets the eye, and if they are the youngest and smallest chapter on campus you might have opportunities available to you beyond your imagination today.