Need honest advice

RedHotSigDelt · #1 10-02-2010, 08:58 PM

I felt like this for a long time. Honestly, you might never have a big group like some of the girls - some people just don't work that way socially. That doesn't mean you can't have an awesome experience, though. Start small - hang out one on one with a few of the girls that you're closest with, start by getting lunch with them and such, and then start inviting them out in small groups if they get along with one another. I don't really have a "group" within my chapter, but I've gotten to be super super close with a few sisters individually. Not everyone is going to have the same experience, and that's okay.

I also recommend taking a little, if you can

ThetaPrincess24 · #2 10-03-2010, 01:22 PM

Does your chapter have housing? If so, are you living in the chapter housing? One's experience living in vs. living out is very different.

ComradesTrue · #3 10-03-2010, 01:55 PM

Another thing to consider: your campus has deferred recruitment. Many of us really bonded with our sisters (both our class and the whole chapter) during the recruitment process.

Hang in there! You have been given great advice about joining committees, living in the house if that is an option, etc. Continue to run for offices if that is your desire. Just because you were not selected this year does not mean that you won't be in the future. Allow your sisters to continue to get to know you, your strengths, and your passions. That goes a long way when it comes time to select officers.

In addition, there is this fairy tale opinion of sororities that everyone in the house will automatically be your "besties." That is not always the case, and it doesn't mean you can't still have a positive greek experience. Continue spending time with as many sisters as possible. Best of luck to you.

33girl · #4 10-03-2010, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Blondie93

Another thing to consider: your campus has deferred recruitment. Many of us really bonded with our sisters (both our class and the whole chapter) during the recruitment process.

Oh, you mean once you are a member and having work week, planning etc. It's been an action-packed weekend and I'm a little slow on the uptake.

ComradesTrue · #5 10-03-2010, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Oh, you mean once you are a member and having work week, planning etc.

Yeah, that is what I meant. Once again I should refrain from typing with a 1 yr old and 3 yr old climbing all over me and I didn't make the post as clear as it should have been. Yes, I was referring to the time spent together planning, working, and recruiting the new members. Many, many members have expressed that this was when they truly cemented bonds within their chapter.

Plus, OP, you will get to be recruiting new members this year. You will not only have a say in who joins your chapter, but you can be the stellar Big Sis that you didn't have.