Worst Wedding You've Ever Attended

[AznSAE]

has anyone ever been to a wedding where the pastor says "if anyone here objects, please speak now" and someone actually did this?

[carnation]

No, but I was thinking it several times over many years. Come to think of it, I've seen a lot of people significantly cutting their eyes around when the pastor said that.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by carnation

No, but I was thinking it several times over many years. Come to think of it, I've seen a lot of people significantly cutting their eyes around when the pastor said that.

One of my guy friends went to a wedding where a groomsman said "*cough* mistake *cough*" at this point.

There were audible gasps in the church and you could hear the bride's dad say something like "what's going on?" The pastor continued as if the guy never said that. He said the bride gave Groomsman the ultimate stink eye and the two did not speak for the rest of the evening.

I'm thinking that if he had the balls to do that, they probably never were on speaking terms.

That couple is now divorced.

[RaggedyAnn]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

One of my guy friends went to a wedding where a groomsman said "*cough* mistake *cough*" at this point.

There were audible gasps in the church and you could hear the bride's dad say something like "what's going on?" The pastor continued as if the guy never said that. He said the bride gave Groomsman the ultimate stink eye and the two did not speak for the rest of the evening.

I'm thinking that if he had the balls to do that, they probably never were on speaking terms.

That couple is now divorced.

I used to work in a store that rented tuxes. One of the groomsmen was an investment advisor. Unknown to the groom, all the groomsmen had given an additional gift of $100 each that one put into a portfolio and was managing, so that when it was time, he would have money for divorce proceedings. They were that confident the man was making a mistake.

[naraht]

Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

I used to work in a store that rented tuxes. One of the groomsmen was an investment advisor. Unknown to the groom, all the groomsmen had given an additional gift of $100 each that one put into a portfolio and was managing, so that when it was time, he would have money for divorce proceedings. They were that confident the man was making a mistake.

Hopefully if they were wrong, they could have given it to the couple for something like a 25th anniversary cruise or something. But *ouch*.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by AznSAE

has anyone ever been to a wedding where the pastor says "if anyone here objects, please speak now" and someone actually did this?

Thankfully, no.

FWIW, the question traditionally is along the lines of "if any man can show any just cause why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak or else hereafter for ever hold his peace." The bold is my emphasis; the point of the question was not to see if anyone thought the marriage was a bad idea, but it was a last chance for anyone to claim that there was a legal impediment to the marriage.

The custom relates to the publishing of banns, which is still (I believe) required in the Church of England but no longer required in the Roman Catholic Church. (One will also sometimes hear banns published in Episcopal churches, though it is not required.) In order for a marriage to be legal, notice had to be given on successive Sundays prior to the wedding; the notice according to the use of the Church of England is along these lines: "I publish the banns of marriage between NN of _____ and NN of _____. This is the first/second/third time of asking. If any of you know cause or just impediment why these two persons should not be joined together in Holy Matrimony, ye are to declare it." (Or "This is the first/second/third time of asking. If any of you know any reason in law why they may not marry each other you are to declare it.")

[ellebud]

Originally Posted by AznSAE

has anyone ever been to a wedding where the pastor says "if anyone here objects, please speak now" and someone actually did this?

No, But in the wedding that I described a number of the people from "our" (the groom's side) were waiting for the Rabbi to say it. The Rabbi didn't say it, but gosh if he did...someone might have said something.