I need advice and help. Have no idea where to put this.

[lala2005]

Originally Posted by Jen

You honestly don't know what it would be like to be a member of the other sorority. There could be internal stuff going on there you have NO idea about as a non-member, things that could potentially have turned you way off that group had you joined. You may have found no one to connect with their. You really never know.

Because you will never know what it's like to be a member of that group, you have got to let it go. Thinking about it all the time is a mental block, and whether you think so or not, it IS influencing your involvement with your sorority. I firmly believe people can sense it - you said yourself you think people can tell everyone is being fake with each other. Maybe people are sensing you don't really want to interact with them because you're concentrating so much on the dream group. You really need to let the other group go, because there is no possibility to make that happen.

That being said, you may find you still don't feel like a fit in your sorority for whatever reason, and then you have a decision to make. I'm not sure if "quitting" to you means taking alumnae status, or resigning your membership in the organization as a whole, but I'd caution against the latter.

One key thing to remember is that membership is for a lifetime. You are in college for only 4-5 years of your life, for the most part. Your time as an alumna is going to be much longer. Do you like the organization as a national group? Can you see yourself getting involved with an alumnae group in the future? If you move to a new city, would you find it helpful to connect with alumnae in that city? Can you see yourself networking online with alumnae?

These are all possibilities for the future with alumnae membership, and if you resign from the sorority as a whole, you'll lose out on that opportunity. I know there are a few members here that have spoken about not having a fabulous time with their sorority in college, but really finding the worth and enjoyment in it after college as an alumna.

Yeah I understand, thanks. I really appreciate your response.