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Originally Posted by GatorKate

I didn't pledge my friend's house and in the end I ended up not getting what I wanted and STILL hurting her feelings.

KSU, from what she wrote, I think she didn't end up pledging any chapter.

GatorKate, this is why people are not giving you the sympathy that you seem to be looking for. You had THREE chapters that wanted you as a sister, and you really wanted two of them. Yet you chose none of them and are now expecting pity? You made your choice. I understand what it's like to be in your second choice. Technically, I am in my "second choice" but it has become my first and is one of the best decisions I've made in college because I gave it a chance.

Many, many, GCers are in their second, third, or even further down the list of choices. Some here did not get a bid at all. Imagine how that girl feels while reading your story, knowing that you had your three choices on pref night and she didn't even make it there. That's why we're saying the things that we're saying. We've heard sob stories, and maybe yours isn't one of them to us (although from what I can tell from you, it still does hurt a lot, which I understand). We, from the other side of recruitment, just wish that you had given the chapter you rejected a chance because we've been that chapter that loved that girl who declined our bid. We have feelings too, you know.

If you really regret your decision that much, you could try to rush again. You may not get your first, second, or even last choice at pref night, you may end up completely bidless but the point is that if you never go through recruitment again you will never know.