Thank you so much for your replies. Breaking with traditions, be it religious or racial, is hard. I remember from MY college yearbook one Asian fraternity wrote above their picture, "We exists because of our pride and your prejudice."
I rushed during the time when sororities were restricted (at my campus). My daughter had different options and seized it. One of my dearest friends is a three generation AEPhi. Her daughter had choices, but picked AEPhi. Her mother gave her the grandmother's pin. This is an open ended question.
I think it depends on the family as well. I know that when I joined AXO, it was less of a deal than when my cousin joined an NPHC group that wasn't exactly expected. There was more of a tradition to be broken by NOT joining a certain sorority within the NPHC than going outside of the conference altogether.
Either way, folks got over both situations pretty quickly. My mother at first didn't think that my membership was serious or "lifetime," but whatevs.
Hybrid Mode
