Discipline: Spanking

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I agree, but I think it depends on the context of the kid misbehaving. In my experience, kid usually wants to be at the store or the restaurant so leaving is a reasonable response if possible, and is more of a punishment than caving to the tantrum. I know people who order their food and to go boxes at the same time, so if kid(s) pitches a fit, they pack up and go.

Just like spanking's not always the answer, the pick up and leave isn't either, but I think both can be in a parent's tool box.

Did your parents only take you to Toys R Us? I don't know too many kids who are keen on stores, getting dragged around on errands is like the prime time to act up.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by SusySorostitute

Did your parents only take you to Toys R Us? I don't know too many kids who are keen on stores, getting dragged around on errands is like the prime time to act up.

No, most of the time I've seen the kid wants a toy or a treat, often from the check out line. S/he's not trying to get out of shopping, but trying to get mommy or daddy to give in on the candy. Hence removal from the store is effective.

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No, most of the time I've seen the kid wants a toy or a treat, often from the check out line. S/he's not trying to get out of shopping, but trying to get mommy or daddy to give in on the candy. Hence removal from the store is effective.

If they're in the check out line lets hope they will be leaving soon anyways!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I remember when grocery stores began having candy/chips/toys-free check out lines so kids won't ask for stuff. I guess not every parent was able to get their kid to adhere to the "don't ask for anything" rule.

No parent nor kid is perfect.

Originally Posted by SusySorostitute

If they're in the check out line lets hope they will be leaving soon anyways!

I've seen people, regretfully, walk out while they're in the line, and say that they'll be back to pay for it. And I've seen parents stick it out, not giving in to the 'i want candy" or whatever. I usually figure the parents who stick it out can't afford the time/transportation to come back later or alone or just figure their kid can deal with it and they'll be out of everyone else's hair soon anyway.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No parent nor kid is perfect.

Did you know that BP spilled some oil?

[SusySorostitute]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

No parent nor kid is perfect.



I've seen people, regretfully, walk out while they're in the line, and say that they'll be back to pay for it. And I've seen parents stick it out, not giving in to the 'i want candy" or whatever. I usually figure the parents who stick it out can't afford the time/transportation to come back later or alone or just figure their kid can deal with it and they'll be out of everyone else's hair soon anyway.

Wow, I have never see that and I'm surprised stores will adhere to the honor system like that. I wouldn't blame any parent who sticks to the latter. I do not like parents who let their children act up in public, but at the same time, some people are just so intolerant of kids in public, I wonder if they realize that they were kids once too (and that is not directed at you DroleFille).

[agzg]

Originally Posted by SusySorostitute

Wow, I have never see that and I'm surprised stores will adhere to the honor system like that. I wouldn't blame any parent who sticks to the latter. I do not like parents who let their children act up in public, but at the same time, some people are just so intolerant of kids in public, I wonder if they realize that they were kids once too (and that is not directed at you DroleFille).

I don't blame people for being intolerant of kids screaming, kicking, acting up, throwing things, and misbehaving in public.

Sure, I was a kid once, too, but I knew if I behaved that way I would be spanked. I shouldn't HAVE to put up with other people's asshole kids when I'm out.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by agzg

I shouldn't HAVE to put up with other people's asshole kids when I'm out.

I have had a lot of success with children in public quieting down when I give them the look and shake my head slightly so they can see I disapprove, as long as I can make eye contact. I don't know whether it's embarrassment or simply an unspoken boundary being set, but it's very quick and does not draw attention to the child or the parent.

At a previous job, there was a woman who used to bring her daughter to work. The time frame was over the course of about three years ending with the little girl heading off to school, so she was pretty young.

The child was considered a holy terror from screaming in the office to grinding crayons into the carpet. She would tear up people's work spaces because they wouldn't speak up to her. With me, though, every time she did something I didn't like, I would take her by both arms and look her in the eye to get her attention so I could tell her why it was unacceptable. It scared her at first, but little by little, she got the message. After that, she knew that when she was being good, she could come get a hug or draw at my desk or just about anything she asked nicely to do, as long as I wasn't busy.